Kicking out my daughter on Mother's Day
I'm a mess. But she has so flagrantly crossed the no using alcohol in the house rule.
I overlook so much. Stopped going into her room because if i stumbled on her stash she'd say I violated her boundaries.
I have suspected she's not been sober, but I chose to keep the peace.
But last night she passed out with her door open and lights on with her alarm going off (I think she set it to the time she thought I'd be coming home, who knows?)
I calmly said, you'll need to leave because this is my boundary. She calmly said she understood and that she leave.
She skipping the family mother's day party, whatever, I don't blame her.
She's 23. She's been back with me for 18 months after 2 years of out of state rehab (with lots of relapses, escapes, periods where she goes missing). That cost me about $35,000.
She's had a job for about 4 months. She hates it. She's stressed. She never feels well. Everyone is mean to her, even though she's doing an amazing job. I airways give empathy, and buy her favorite foods and try not to stress her out further with household chores.
We used to fight over her not cleaning up after herself (never asked her to do more than that). But I gave up to keep the peace and just clean up all her gross dishes with stuck on mustard that were in her room for a month.
Anyway, now she's leaving to go sleep in her car, instead of going to her alcoholic father's house.
I feel guilty. I feel bad that I think she staged it on mother's day to make me look like a monster.
But this has been going on since she was 17. She is 23 now. Before that, it was anorexia from 14 years old.
I'm tired of the struggle.
And I'm so mad it's come to this.
I have to travel for work in the morning. How can I possibly cope with the guilt and fear?