My mom has been bringing random men from the bar into our home and spiraling out of control
I have a single mother who just recently got out of a year long relationship with her ex boyfriend (give or take a few months) and ever since, her behavior has been absolutely insane. She’s struggled with alcoholism for years, but it gets to a whole other level when she’s single. She has been going to this bar about 10 minutes from our house almost every single day, spending hours, if not the whole entire day there. Once, she was gone when I woke up and didn’t come back till I went to sleep. She has been calling out of work just to sit there and drink, I’m honestly not even sure how she still has her job or what excuses she’s been giving to her boss. I’m 17, and my sister is 18. It’s just the three of us. My sister and I have tried holding her accountable and voicing our concerns countless times, but nothing we say is enough. She gives excuses upon excuses and lies upon lies. She doesn’t see anything wrong with her actions. We don’t feel safe with her bringing strangers into our home and having them spend the night. I even reached out to my other sister who’s moved out already, and she called my mom and tried getting through to her, which initially seemed to help but clearly didn’t last as I’m sitting here writing this post. I’m honestly not sure who to reach out to at this point, I have nobody to talk to about this besides my Mom’s family who lives in another state. Is it worth reaching out to my grandparents, who are aging and becoming less reliable, or my aunt? I’m hoping that if it’s her own family reaching out, she will take the message more to heart, but I’m also feeling hopeless. I’m open to any advice. Part of me feels like maybe I’m making this a bigger deal than it is, but I also don’t feel good about it at all. I’m also apprehensive about reaching out to her family as I don’t want her to get upset with me for doing so.