Original post https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/ADDAZPn1uy
Honestly I didn’t think that my post would blow up the way it did but a lot of people are asking for an update and have deemed me the TA
Yes my brother and SIL saw this post and they commented their side of things. They sent me a message personally and a second message in our family group chat. They have cut us out and have blocked us on everything. We are no longer welcome in their life and are not allowed to be in the babies life. My family is devastated but we’re accepting this reality.
Some things I want to clear up:
•Neither my mom nor my brother/his gf have a car and have no way of traveling. I’m currently unemployed so dropping $$ for a four hour trip isn’t feasible for me right now. That’s why we weren’t able to make the gender reveal
•I’ll admit that we haven’t been super involved in their pregnancy, but that’s just how my family is. When I said we were low effort I meant that, that’s how I was raised and I don’t know any different. But we’re firm believers if our presence is wanted then it’s their responsibility to set that up
•Yes we said some very cruel things to them and I know we can’t take them back. That’s something that we’re all reflecting on and admit that we were wrong on.
•I admit that I’ve been caught up in my own thoughts and feelings as well as my moms. I still don’t necessarily agree with a lot but I do see my faults and have accepted that their decisions are solely based on how we acted and how we didn’t show up for them