Hey everyone, I (female, 25) am getting married to my partner (male, 24) of 3 years this year and haven't told my family yet.
This might sound a bit drastic since I only have about 5 months left till the ceremony but we've been planning this wedding for a bit now. Even if it's not as long as you should take normally i believe.
Even so it's a bit spontaneous since we only really started planning since February. We already have our dream venue for an incredible cheap price and the catering and drink situation is also all sorted out.
We decided to make a double wedding with some friends since we wanted to celebrate at the same venue, expenses split and half of our guests overlap anyway.
So it's pretty much settled.
But only my brother knows about this since I wanted to tell the rest of my family in person and I only visit home every 3 weeks or so. Also I didn't want to tell them when it wasn't set yet since i feared that they try to talk me out of it. My mom had a very toxic marriage and multiple partners but none of them were long term partner material. So she's not a big fan of marriage. Especially since I'm still quite young and it's gonna be really expensive if it ever comes to a divorce. I teased it to my grandma before but dropped the topic pretty quickly after she told me that alot of planning goes into a wedding. She didn't know that I was already planning at this point and we divide the load onto 4 people, which is really nice.
My grandma seamed pretty worried when i mentioned it in passing last time because she was afraid that I wouldn't be able to stand up to my partner or say "no" to him. I might be a people pleaser but I absolutely tell him when I'm not a fan of something. So this isn't an issue.
I really wanna tell them this weekend. We're going ro a cafe of Saturday since I'm gonna leave again on Sunday (mother's day).
I would really appreciate advice on how to go about all this. How and when I should bring it up und what to say and how to behave.
Thanks in advance.