Dating a parent when your birthday falls on father's day
I often like to take a birthday trip for milestone years especially with using PTO in the US as Juneteenth is recognized as a holiday at my job making it a long weekend. This has ranged from a mountain resort, beach trip, cruise etc for 4-7 days depending.
The problem is I have been dating a dad for 2+ years and my birthday generally coincides with father's day weekend, sometimes the day itself (was born on father's day). This is a pretty fraught day as his ex is remarried so if he were to go on a trip with me they would spend the day with step dad which is pretty upsetting for my partner. Is this me giving up having a birthday trip on my actual day as a mature adult (or just going solo/with my own family), him getting therapy to be able to be okay with celebrating on a different time/how he feels about their second parent, or some compromise of doing a mini family trip for the weekend like camping/local amusement park? The ex is not comfortable with out of state travel even though there is no custody agreement against it so something like Disney would be out. Let me know if I am missing something! Most years I am fine with just dinner, but the thought of the next 10-15 years no big trips with my partner on my birthday is kind of sad.