u/Fill-Choice

My perspective on life has completely changed in the past year and I don't know why. I've gone through a couple of big changes, I got a new job in a completely different city, a lot more pressure and responsibility but also I think I was bullied at my old job and made out to be incompetent, I love my new team. They're some of the most valuable people in the world IMHO.

The youngest step daughter moved out, so we have an empty nest. My dog died. Both grandparents died. I've made big improvements in trauma therapy, trauma resulting from childhood neglect and abuse.

I don't care about my house anymore. Everyone is my friend until they prove they're not my friend. Even if someone is shouting at me, I will reassure them because I've realised stressed people just want reassurance and it's nothing personal normally. Forgive and forget and aim to leave everyone in an improved condition than you met them. My perspective on money has changed, spend it. I've decided my husbands family aren't worth the effort anymore and will happily never speak to them again. I've accepted my body will never look like a supermodels and it's OK because it does everything I need it to. I've always known everything isn't black and white but I've really stared to believe it and now I *look* for the grey area. I live in the grey area. What are rules? People make mistakes and everything is fluid and we're all connected. My house doesn't have to be perfect, it doesn't matter that the carpets are marked and the hearth got scratched. I love being outside and the rain and the imperfections, the violets and primroses that are growing through my cracked patio slabs.

Everything I've said here is a 180 on how I felt last year.

Tell me if you've ever gone through something similar in your life.

Does £2150 seem steep to knock between my reception rooms and create a 2.3m opening? I already have the steel calcs.

Also, does £1100 seem steep to create a 700w*1400h window, without window or decorative lintel?

My periods have been getting steadily more irregular as the year has gone on. I started taking ferrous fumarate and zinc about a week ago (just as my period, half a week late, was coming to an end). Today it started again.

I know iron and zinc play a role in female hormone health but has anyone else had something similar happen after starting suppliments?

On another note, my skin is looking noticible better and energy levels are definitely up

The kids are 17 and 20, eldest has left home and the youngest has decided to live at her mother's as of a month ago. The X2 dogs have been 50/50 costody from day dot and this was the last tie between me, my husband and HCBM.

HCBM has a record of dodging the vet bills she agreed to go halves with. One dog died around 6 years ago, and HCBMs knee Jerk reaction was to accuse my SO of murdering the dog. No tears or sadness, just rage. At the doggy crem, youngest SD was full-body crying and HCBM ignored her to flirt and laugh loudly in a conversation with a crem man who was trying his hardest to be respectful - very tone deaf. I paid for it all (£300) but didn't chase up with HCBM because of how devistated my husband was and I really couldn't be bothered with her shit.

I told him this time, for doggy no 2, I wanted her to agree to go halves before he got put to sleep.

I organised it all because husband was a heartbroken mess. Roll on a week later and she's demanding an itemised breakdown of what the £140 vets bill and £355 crem bill are for. The dog was 45kg when he got put to sleep, he was huge, personally I thought it was really well priced in spite of this.

In the middle of heartache for this dog that isn't mine, I really don't have the patience for this and I called her deplorable and shameless. She went on to accuse me of breaking the family apart and claimed she didn't agree to this because I organised it (and not my husband).

I don't want her to pay a penny, I'm not bothered about the money, it's the principle, it's the lack of social awareness, that her fucking FAMILY DOG HAS DIED - there's something seriously wrong with this woman mentally. I actually hate her.