u/Financial-Jello8766

Am I the Bad Guy for telling my partner he is going to get fired?

My partner, our son and I live in Central California. My partner and I have created a long term life plan that, he will go to school FT, earn his BA (while I work FT) and secure a comfortable paying job. Once he obtains work with a BA, we would switch to where he works FT and I can finish my degree. (Also a BA)

Last month he randomly called that he decided to apply for a FT job, before finishing school and he expressed he thought it was a great opportunity and if he got the job he would make this his career and drop school. He also shared we would have to move an hour and a half away. i was worried about planning a move, as moving is very stressful for me and i was worried that we didnt have funds for appli ations, deposits, etc. Though I was hesitant because plans were potentially going to change in our long term goals and now we had to plan a big move if he gets the job, I was still supportive. He interviewed and got the job within 2 weeks. Our current lease in Central California is set to end at the end of June 2026. My partner has already moved in with his family to start this job and I am working from home alone and living alone, Mon-Fri. (He took our son with him to be with family, I was ok with this after a discussion)

Today, my partner's supervisor advised him to WFH as he would not be available to train my with my partner today. In the middle of the day, I learned from my partner that he actually had not completed any WFH at all, and had been at our son's school performance, and apartment hunting.

I am upset that my partner would risk this job, by not completing any work all day, with a directive from his supervisor to WFH. I told my partner that I didn't understand why he did not prioritize his work today when he knows we are so very dependent on it right now.

Am I the Bad Guy? I feel guilty for telling my partner he could lose this job or leave a very bad taste in the new employer's mouth. Am i validated in what I am feeling?

My partner, our son and I live in Central California. My partner and I have created a long term life plan that, he will go to school FT, earn his BA (while I work FT) and secure a comfortable paying job. Once he obtains work with a BA, we would switch to where he works FT and I can finish my degree. (Also a BA)

Last month he randomly called that he decided to apply for a FT job, before finishing school and he expressed he thought it was a great opportunity and if he got the job he would make this his career and drop school. He also shared we would have to move an hour and a half away. i was worried about planning a move, as moving is very stressful for me and i was worried that we didnt have funds for appli ations, deposits, etc. Though I was hesitant because plans were potentially going to change in our long term goals and now we had to plan a big move if he gets the job, I was still supportive. He interviewed and got the job within 2 weeks. Our current lease in Central California is set to end at the end of June 2026. My partner has already moved in with his family to start this job and I am working from home alone and living alone, Mon-Fri. (He took our son with him to be with family, I was ok with this after a discussion)

Today, my partner's supervisor advised him to WFH as he would not be available to train my with my partner today. In the middle of the day, I learned from my partner that he actually had not completed any WFH at all, and had been at our son's school performance, and apartment hunting.

I am upset that my partner would risk this job, by not completing any work all day, with a directive from his supervisor to WFH. I told my partner that I didn't understand why he did not prioritize his work today when he knows we are so very dependent on it right now.

Am I the Bad Guy? I feel guilty for telling my partner he could lose this job or leave a very bad taste in the new employer's mouth. Am i validated in what I am feeling?