How to stand up for someone?
Problem/Goal: I (M20) wanna learn how to actually stand for someone and make them feel I'm with them
Was playing a game with my gf and our teammates told her stuffs. that she's playing bad and that she doesn't know how to play. I hated it and I felt sad for my gf. I told our teammates to shut up. Their trashtalks continued. I asked my girlfriend to js mute them and that I've muted them na already.
Later that game, my gf sounded really sad. Both from getting told that she was bad and she also told me thay I didn't protect her. I also felt the same way. I felt like I didn't really stood up for her, despite me really wanting to.
I've never been good at verbally fighting with someone. I always feel like I'd run empty on words, or not say enough things. I never had the stuffs that can actually mean something. We had played lots of times with my gf and it happened lots of times as well. I js feel nervous whenever I sense that someone will start picking on my gf again.
This doesn't only apply to my gf. It applies for anyone, even with myself. I don't understand why it's so hard to stand up for someone. I felt really hurt when I heard it from my gf, but I understood why she felt that way as well