Girlfriend of 6 months said she realised that she isn’t ready for a relationship
So we have been dating with this girl for 6 months and during that time everything was going great, we didn’t argue, had quality time, i showed her a lot of attention, was loving her so much and expressed it in every possible way. During our relationship my only concerns were that there were situations when we had plans to go on a date and few hours before our scheduled date she could text me and say her friends invited her to go for a walk or to do some activities with them so she rescheduled our date even though it was planned long time before, other concern was that she loves to party and her friends are single so they often went to clubs, bars and house parties, she has a mindset “if my friends go i go with them”. But maybe i loved her so much to the point where I let go of it easily. But overall everything was going great, we had great time together until random Sunday when she sent me a text saying something like: It’s not about you it’s about me, ur a great, PERFECT, loving, caring guy but i feel like my feelings have changed and i can’t give you the same effort and energy as you give me, and i don’t want to waste your and my time, you can find someone who can give you more than i could give you, i think I’m not ready for a relationship right now, I feel like I need to find and understand myself better. It was heartbreaking for me to read cause just day before we had amazing time together we were smiling and laughing, nothing seemed off. And when I asked her on how long did she feel like this she answered that she wrote this message two weeks ago but couldn’t say it in person and decided to do it over a text, so I couldn’t believe that those two weeks she was faking her laugh, smile, phrases how she loves me etc. After that text we took a break for a month and after three weeks she texted me that nothing has changed and we should break up again over a text and didn’t even want to meet for a closure. I have so many questions that won’t be answered, like why she can easily let go of a “perfect” man? Is it because of her single friends who could be jealous and made her break up with me? Is it because there is other guy?( even though she promised that it’s not because of some other guy). I still love her and want it to be her. Maybe could someone explain why it all happened
Update: we just had a “closure” call on instagram, so again she said that she just doesn’t want a relationship, also that she’s been on 2 dates with other guy this week after a break up, when I asked whats the point of going on a date with a guy if she doesn’t want a relationship she answered that its for short term and she won’t be taking him seriously, I don’t know how can she move on so quickly, im dead inside