How to feel sexual or attraction again after being cheated on?
Hi. I (26F) was dating someone (30M) for a year when I found out last November that he had been cheating on me the entirety of our relationship. I’d been in therapy prior to meeting him already, so I was able to work through the trauma and anger I had after I found out and broke up with him.
Overall I’m doing much better now, except I haven’t been able to regain any sexuality or desire to be with someone again. For context, I was very sexual when I was with my previous partner, and did the casual hookup thing in college without problem too. But now I haven’t been able to imagine going past kissing. I don’t feel in touch with my body because of this.
I still read my romance books and I’m able to make myself orgasm alone but I crave the intimacy of being with someone again. I know I could go out and kick start things with a one night stand or something but that doesn’t feel right to me either. I’m not sure what to do at this point. I know I should wait for the right person again, which matters a lot to me, but I feel like Charlotte in SATC in that one scene when she’s saying she just needs to get f*cked! Sorry for the imagery if you don’t get the reference lol.
Thank you x