People love to invalidate me because my mom was my abuser
Females or males- it does not matter. Either can be equally abusive; mentally, sexually, physically. Just because *you* have not heard about it as much does not mean it doesn't happen. It does and the only reason more people don't know is because the society we live in believes that mothers are like angels and are natural caregivers which is complete bullshit.
I also hate how so many people are so quick to say "beat the child" when they are crying or behaving badly and then in the same breath call it discipline and correct parenting and laugh when you call it abuse. Just because it's so normalized does not make it right at all. Why do so many people do this? Why are they so eager to forgive parents and treat the children like they are some sub-human creatures? Why is this viewpoint so common? Why are children treated so badly, yet people would claim they would die for their pets and give them their whole world if they could but they cannot even treat their children with basic decency?
I may be projecting here, but my family used to own a parrot and I was supposed to feed the bird all the time and my mom loved it like it was the most precious thing in the world and laugh when it used to bite me. She would go on to overly care for that stupid parrot and that sort of made me view people who would do anything for their pets but would not give a damn about their kids in a bad light. I never understood this deep disconnect between an adult and a child. They are human and deserve love and attention but most people joke about beating them up?? It makes me so angry.