Was anyone never properly prepared for the real world because of your n parents?
I'm 27, have aspergers, yet my n mom was so obsessed with wanting me to be part of the church that she neglect led to teach me proper human mannerisms and hygiene, finances. This did fit her narrative on how i had to depend on her since I could "never take care of myself". Unfortunately for her (and for me), I was forced to become an adult very early on due to being exposed to graphical shit by the church and pro-life organisations. While kids were out playing football, or tag, or other kids stuff, I was holding signs of aborted fetuses at 6 years old with only the religious perspective on keeping a baby.
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I eventually grew out of it all and only learned much later than everyone else how to take care of myself. Unfortunately the same cannot be said for my brother, who has had it far worse than me. For years, my mom has been taking too much care of him forcibly: cleaning up his messes, cleaning his room for him, preparing baths for him, etc. All the way up to his 20's. Since we moved in with our dad, he hasn't changed. I don't want to day that he's lazy, but more like he doesn't realise his own mess. Like he doesn't know how to properly take care of himself. Me nor my dad don't have the time to teach him some of this stuff, and he can't manage himself. This has lead me to yell at him more often over him leaving a mess behind. I'm trying not to be harsh, but as my dad said, one day, my dad will pass away, and my brother will be with room mates who will treat him far worse if he doesn't cop on.