advice needed: confused as he wants to stay texting and seeing me despite not wanting to do a long distance relationship
I met a guy a couple months ago agreeing to not get into anything serious which then led to the most heartbreaking situation for me and most likely for him too.
I am a 21f and him 21m and he was in my country on erasmus and well we met through a dating app. I didn’t expect anything serious of any sort and we agreed on that. anyways as I’ve past experience of a horrible relationship that had me guarded up with my feelings so i had no expectations . Long story short he is the most amazing person I have met and fell in love with.
He has done so much for me that my friends considered would be “boyfriend duties” but i disregarded it all saying “oh he’s just really nice” but it made me realise what we had was very real and he has left but one thing we had different was him not wanting to do long distance as he said it would drive him crazy. Which broke me because he would continue to say other times how he’s never felt like this for someone. He even cried over leaving me, which he admits he’s never done over any girl before. On the other hand we are both college students so visiting each other with the costs of flights and finding time for each other would be hard but I would’ve done really anything for him to be honest.
I respected his reasonings but he wants to stay texting me and visit each other. he’s done a lot to show that he really does like me a lot which I think is more than like but love but won’t admit to himself. What do i do in this situation? Should i really keep texting him or what? I don’t want to be the girl that has been dwelling on a guy not committing to a relationship but treating our situation like one ? I am so confused on what to do as one part of me wants to wait it out and see as the “what ifs” is making me question oh what if after I graduate next year could I move there but I don’t know what to do? Knowing he really likes me etc doesn’t help because it makes me question where is this leading to in reality am I just a waiting game until in his home country for someone new to come into his life or what i’m so u sure and lost and i just need advice please :(
-im also dyslexic so if any of this doesn’t make sense i apologize ! thanks:)