Man asked me to be a FWB
Since becoming an SMBC, I can’t really imagine being in a traditional relationship with anyone. I don’t want my child to have a step-parent. I don’t want a blended family, it doesn’t seem to work for the kids. I just don’t see this as a viable path for me, at least not until my child is grown.
Meanwhile, I met a guy who’s a single dad (co-parenting). Our kids are the same age, so we are both still in the trenches with little ones and he has been good company since we’re both navigating similar situations. I haven’t told him any of this in terms of my current perspective on dating, but he brought up that he’s just not interested in dating and relationships right now and is just looking for an fwb and am I up for that?
I get it, but I’m also feeling like it’s personal. Why doesn’t he want a relationship with me? As an SMBC, it’s hard to not feel that “I wasn’t picked,” and now this guy’s proposal is also making me feel unwanted, even though it is also actually what I want. It also seems ridiculous to want a man to want a relationship with me just so I can turn him down.
Putting it out there to the community to see if anyone can relate and help me better understand how to navigate this feeling.