Cutting children’s contact with Uncle undiagnosed mental disorder
My brother appears to have undiagnosed mental disorders. He is definitely a hoarder and if I had to guessing at least another disorder. We’re both in our forties. He has no children and I have a 10 and 12 year old. I have told him for years to seek help but he does not agree that he has an issue at all.
Our mother died a few years ago and we became closer. So I’m not sure if I am now just realizing the extent of his issues or if his disordered thinking was a slow progression. He usually finds himself in stressful situations because of his lack of foresight and common sense. I stopped advising him because he lacks accountability and it always becomes an argument.
Emotionally he is all over the place. He can cry in one moment and then laughing in the next. It’s hard to understand his point in conversations because he uses would words in a peculiar way. Frequently, it’s hard for me to understand the chronologically order when he is explaining a situation that he is in. These questions are constantly going through my head when he talks: did it happen already, is it currently happening, or is he giving me details of what he is thinking is going to happen. He jumps topics and swears it all related and I just get really confused. It’s exhausting to talk to him because it requires to many clarifying question on my behalf.
I stopped exhausting myself and now when he calls I listen to him for a bit and then find a reasonable reason to get off the phone with him without alerting him that he makes no sense. In the past I have tried to counter his thoughts but I get no where and it causes an argument.
Recently, a couple of situations gave him immense stress that he told me of violent actions that he would like to take against the other parties. He was very angry and did not want to accept his role in the situations. I am disheartened and surprised by his violent thoughts. He did not follow through with these actions, however, I’m worried that he eventually will find himself in yet another terrible situation and he will not be able to control himself.
Every few weeks he may take my children to the park. At this point, I don’t want him around my children anymore. Is it extreme that I tell him that he can no longer be around my children unless he gets help?