Constant need for reassurance is killing my relationship.
Basically my gf is on holiday right now and every tiny little thing makes me question everything, for example if she takes a few hours to reply or doesn’t message me when she first wakes up.
This morning she didn’t message me untill she was having food so i immediately assumed she didn’t love me and had loads of stupid intrusive thoughts like that one. After this conversation she said that i had started to ruin her holiday by picking things to cause arguments everyday, i can see why it looks like this however i am just looking for some reassurance in everything due to the intense intrusive thoughts im getting while she has been away.
How can i start to learn to not bother her and just sit with the thoughts because im finding it so hard and every thought feels so urgent to text her and it start fights because its just silly.