AITAH for thinking about breaking my engagement because my fiancé got a matching tattoo with his girl best friend?
AITA for thinking about breaking my engagement because my fiancé got a matching tattoo with his girl best friend?
My fiancé has a girl best friend he's known since middle school. They've been friends for ages, and I believe him when he tells me that there's no romance there at all, they're simply very good friends.
That being said, from the start of our relationship, I couldn't help noticing that his friendship with his girl best friend had something of an emotionally intimate feel to it. I brought it up before, and he reacted defensively, saying that I'm getting something wrong and that he could never betray me in such a way.
I have to admit, after trying for a while, I accepted the fact and tried to not mention it again. Over time, he tried to be more mindful with boundaries, and things were okay.
Then, not too long ago, my best friend (who is a woman) and I got matching permanent anklets. They are welded jewelry that you can't take off unless you cut it. We've done it together, and I told him about it, and he thought it was cute.
Apparently, shortly after that he and his gbf agreed to do something they had talked about before which is get matching tattoos. He never mentioned anything like that to me not even in a joking way.
When he showed me his new tattoo, I started crying and asked him why he would do something like that with her, for me getting matching tattoos seems more intimate and permanent than getting matching jewelry.
But to this, he honestly said that I did pretty much the same thing with my best friend and asked me what makes me cry over this. For me, it just seems incredibly inappropriate because:
This matching tattoo is with another girl regardless of how he sees her or she sees him. If it was a family member then yeah it's okay but not with her.
Even if I have a male best friend, I would definitely never do such a thing while being engaged to someone else.
And right now, I am seriously considering giving him back the engagement ring because i know that every time i see that tattoo i will feel like shit and will resent him for it.
I do not really believe that he wants to cheat on me with his best friend. Because I believe that if something was ever going to happen between them it would have happened a long time ago but I feel very terrible about that.
While he believes that I am overreacting, my friends think my feelings about it are valid and that they are both way out of line to do something like that. So if I break up with him WIBTAH?