Third Marriage at 36
Hello all,
I (36F) am in a year long relationship (37M) and we have recently discussed marriage. This will be my third marriage and his first. We have talked about buying a house together, having kids, and getting old together. I get so excited thinking of our future. He knows I have been married twice before and the reasons as to why they ended.
I have started doubting myself since I have already been in two failed marriages. The first one ended after 5 years together. He changed after we married and he had given me bruises, cheated… and killed our cat in anger. I tried to get over what he did, but couldn’t and ended the marriage.
The second marriage ended after 5 years as well because he suddenly viewed me as a friend. I had asked him if we could do counseling and he refused. His mom still messages me and always checks in to see how I am and how my new relationship is going. She’s told me she doesn’t understand her son’s decision and that she wants me to be happy.
The man I am with now is amazing, but after the discussion of marriage, I just worry about letting myself down again. I worry that if things don’t work out, I will look like a complete failure. I worry what my relatives (aunts and uncles) will think if I got married again. My siblings and Mom would just be happy for me.
I feel like I am just writing this to get this out there, but has anyone had a successful third marriage? I really want to have a family and a happily ever after.