At age 44, I managed to get pregnant, but my baby boy had T21 and I terminated last September. I have found my decision very hard to live with. I probably would have kept my baby if I could have been assured of a "better" outcome in terms of overall health and mental impairment. That ambiguity has haunted me.
My insurance covered IVF, so after my termination, we went that route, without success. Now we have to decide if we should try to conceive naturally.
At my age, the odds of having another baby with T21 are about 10% at 10 weeks. If I have to face that decision again, I don't think I'll decide differently, but I don't know how I'll live with myself. We have a wonderful little boy who is almost 3 and know we are so, so lucky to have had a healthy child at my advanced age. But I would really, deeply love for him to have a sibling in this world. And my partner doesn't like the idea of adoption or donor eggs.
Is it wrong to try to conceive when my baby's risk for T21 is so high? We previously decided against natural conception for exactly this reason, but now, faced with the prospect of simply accepting that we won't have another child, I have second thoughts. I would like to know how others would view this in the hopes something helps me stop going back and forth.