AIO My husband wants to spend July 4th with his friends instead of Me and our toddler?
So, my (26F) husband (27M) and I have a toddler at home, which I know can lead to tensions in and of itself. This summer, he has to live in another state for work, which was completely out of his control. So, I have been doing surprisingly well at home on my own with my kid while balancing work and other home responsibilities. Possibly better even. But that’s more for another time.
He came to visit this weekend (which I was very appreciative of) and brought up casually as we were planning a schedule for us to try and visit each other this summer that he has a question to ask about Fourth of July plans. He asks is he and his three friends from college could do Fourth of July together (where he is working) and if instead he could just visit us the weekend before or after. I took a little pause to think instead of react and replied that I honestly felt it was an odd thing to ask, to spend a holiday with his college friends instead of with us. He said I was being emotional and trying to guilt him. We argued a little back and forth and we had to stop when he told me I was “yapping” and to just “shut up”. We could come but I would be responsible for booking the Airbnb. He would just go do the festivities at night with his friends.
He later apologized, but we never really talked about it again before he left. I suppose we left it at I need to find an Airbnb.
AIO? Or is this something I should just let go and let him do with his friends and just allow him to come a weekend before or after? To add insult to injury, I have no family, just (luckily good) friends, so it would just be me and my baby that holiday
TLDR: my husband wants to spend July 4th with his friends despite being away for the summer for work, and wants to just visit the weekend before or after.