AITA For Not Asking About Wedding Dates
Okay, so to set the scene: friends of ours got engaged in August and, since then, haven’t really made any concrete moves toward planning a wedding. First they talked about having a small destination wedding, then it became a backyard wedding once their new build is finished, and then they started saying they might just elope. They’ve gone back and forth a lot and still haven’t committed to even a month or year.
My partner and I got engaged in May and knew we wanted a summer 2027 wedding, so we jumped right into planning in order to secure a venue and start budgeting. We toured a venue, absolutely loved it, and decided on August 7, 2027. We picked that date very intentionally because one of the groomsmen is a professional athlete and that’s one of the only weekends we know he’ll definitely have free.
When I mentioned to our friends in person that we booked the venue for that date, the bride got visibly upset and said, “We’ve been telling venues we plan to tour that date. I need to know immediately if you’re definitely doing that date.”
I went home, talked it over with my partner, and we decided we really couldn’t move the date because of venue availability and our friend’s schedule. I texted her afterward, kindly explaining that we were moving forward with August 7th, why we chose it, and that I hoped they understood.
It’s now been three days and I still haven’t heard back. I can’t help but feel guilty, but at the same time I also feel like I shouldn’t because they’ve had plenty of time to start planning and have been so indecisive about what they even want.
AITA?
EDIT: they have been telling potential venues (that they haven't toured yet) that they are interested in a August 7th 2027 date. NOT that they will be touring that date.