Long story shortish, we have been together 6 years, living together for 3 of that. When we got a place, we both had good paying jobs to which we both agreed to split rent and other “life” bills on. I proposed to her a year after we moved in together. She has a 9 year old daughter with no dad in the picture which I have built a great relationship with. Neither the child or my fiance have any other family in the picture due to jail or death. I have had 2 jobs since we have moved in and that is only because the company I was building a career with went out of business. I found a new place and have been there for the last 2.5 years. In that time (2.5 years) she has had 3 jobs. She left her very well paying one which I was in support of due to the commute and found one 5 mins from home making more. She left that job after maybe 6-8 months. Her new job she’s been at for a month now I know she’s already considering leaving, she hasn’t told me yet but I can just tell.
I’ve supported her every step of the way here. Never once judged her or looked down on her for leaving the first two places, I had her back. But also explained to her that in this economy, we both need to be working right now and she needs to lock something down. One side of me wants to work two FT jobs just so financially she can work less. But I have a hard time killing my self for 80 hours for someone who barely wants to work 40. Call me selfish but I have turned down job offers which were big pay bumps just to continue to work around her schedule so she wouldn’t be stressed. But I am unsure what the right course of action is here. She is a good woman otherwise i wouldn’t have asked her to marry me. However, Im having a hard time keeping this thing going when this keeps happening. If I am in the wrong here, I can take it and hope someone would be honest.