I feel like people who’d actually make great parents often aren’t having kids
This is just my observation but I often feel like many people who would genuinely make smart, responsible, humble, emotionally mature parents are choosing not to have kids, or are having very few.
Meanwhile a lot of irresponsible people seem to become parents very casually without really being prepared for the responsibility. This includes my own parents too honestly, so I’m not saying this from a place of feeling above others. My upbringing is part of why I think about this topic so much.
I also know some very thoughtful people who are somewhat antinatalist or unsure about having children. Some want to adopt instead or dedicate themselves to helping other social causes which I still think is admirable.
But sometimes I can’t help feeling that society loses something when many of the most responsible and capable people opt out of parenthood while less responsible parenting remains common.
Again this is just my personal observation and I could be wrong.