My online friend’s attitude toward women is exhausting, and I’m thinking about cutting him off
I met this friend online about two years ago, and we’ve stayed in touch ever since. Our conversations mostly consist of me calling out his misogynistic behavior. I’m genuinely so tired of him. He generalizes women constantly, saying things like “they’re all the same” and claiming they’re only interested for a week before they get bored. Of course, there are people out there like that, but the problem is that he applies that mindset to women as a whole. It’s really frustrating.
I’ve told him that he has a terrible way of thinking and that he needs to become more open minded. Honestly, he’s the one choosing to associate with these kinds of people. He deliberately seeks out women who seem to be struggling with mental health issues who are “alt,” and I’m not going to lie, they look cool, but does he really expect to find a healthy and stable relationship that way? I’m not trying to hate either. I’m mentally ill myself. I take medication and go to therapy to help with my own problems, but many of the women he’s attracted to seem to romanticize their illness.
Not to mention, he’s been catfished three times by men. Yet he continues to generalize women while repeatedly falling for the same situations. I just think it’s so wrong, and he needs to own up to his own mistakes and admit that he has little to no real life contact with women.
He’s also a major hater. He calls himself ugly and intimidating, yet he’ll send me videos of obese or conventionally unattractive people just to mock them. Recently, he sent me a TikTok slideshow of a couple and said, “Why do alt and Asian women always get with white men?” Mind you, those women are exactly his type, and he’s just as plain and boring as the white men he complains about, while also not being Asian himself.
The cringiest part of all of this is that he’s an adult comparing himself to a misunderstood, perverted, and groomed teenage anime character named Denji. At this point, I honestly don’t know how to help him anymore.
I’m honestly thinking about just blocking him. I wanted to help him, but I’m starting to think he might be a lost cause.