I don’t understand why non virgins insist on shaming virgins to give up their virginity? What benefit do they receive from taking someone’s virginity? Why is it bad if I don’t want to have sex with non virgins?
How do I communicate that as a virgin man saving his virginity for a virgin woman, it’s about me and my choices and standards and not about shaming or being mean to a non virgin? Is there just an inherent sense of shame when this topic is brought up on a date with a potential partner? Is there a healthy way to communicate this without hurting anyone, or is it just the same hurt that accompanies most rejections?