r/virgin

I notice everytime. If i ejaculated in the last 48h i just can't attract women. Is this the same for you ?

I really want to go watch the new horror movie Obsession because Ive heard good things about it, but really don’t want to go by myself. It honestly wouldn’t be fun for me if I sat in the theater all alone. Seeing couples would just down the entire experience for me. I want to go through the whole act of taking a girl to the theaters and do whatever it is normal couples do. It’s honestly been a dream of mine. Someone that likes me so much they want to sit next to me and get close and all that. I wanna feel a girl hold my arm whenever she gets scared at a scary scene or have our hands touch whenever we reach for popcorn out of the same bucket. For us to talk about our favorite scenes and maybe kiss in the parking lot or some sort of affection 😅 A man can dream, cant he? 😔 Oh well…

Was asked this question on a first meeting and I struggled to answer. Just said I was unlucky. Couldn't think of anything else to say.

Would women find it a red flag if a guy honestly reveals he has been single for his entire life at age 30 to 40?

I (25F) do care personally. I don’t know why but I just can’t date someone who’s not a virgin

Hi I’m new here I’m 25F from the UK and never kissed never been a relationship of any kind. It’s not like I’ve never been asked out-I have but I always decline because they’re not my type (I don’t really have a physical type, I care more about educational and financial background and whether we share the same values) . Basically I have a list of standards for example I want someone who is well-educated, from the UK/US and well-off- now I know what you’re thinking and no I only care about financial situation because well if I am to marry this guy then I want my/our? future children to live a lavish life basically it’s just to give my future children the best start in life the best opportunities private schooling etc. and I’m conventionally pretty so why shouldn’t I be picky about who I marry? After all I’m waiting till marriage and it’s not like I’m going to do this marriage thing more than once in my life- so it’s good to be picky right? But then I get so jealous when I see couples kissing in public or holding hands and I wish that was me I wish I had that. Ugh I love love.

Oh and i think i find it difficult to find people that share the same values as me- I mean for starters I’m quite traditional- but also loyalty is VERY important like i hate liars idk why im waffling but yeah i just wanna know if there are others on here that agree with what i said or disagree lowkey im sleepy okay bye goodnight

Being a virgin for medical reasons seems to be rarely talked about.

I am a woman in my early 30s with Vaginismus. It is a pelvic floor condition that can make sex painful or impossible. I didn’t get treatment for this until starting this year because doctors are so dismissive or ignorant. Took most of my life to get a diagnosis. Then, Pelvic floor therapy is expensive and time consuming.

It’s just frustrating when everyone around you assumes you have all this sexual experience and you don’t. I was thinking that at my age I have to lie and say I’m not a virgin to protect myself. Either way, I’m not believed that I am really a virgin. I tried to tell a guy I was dating previously and he didn’t believe me. That ended.

It’s also like a feeling of grief too. Even as I am towards the end of therapy I feel annoyed. The first time I experience something won’t even mean anything because the person most likely already experienced it with other people. Just being at an older age too just makes it worse. Idk it just frustrates me.

Like you may encounter a girl who accepts you and your lack of sexual experience but in the back of your head you may be paranoid and fearful that someday she's gonna find an excuse to say you're no longer good enough and leave you.

Has that ever crossed your mind and could that be a subconscious reason why not trying at all sounds more appealing?

Just curious :)

Yep, I’m one of the very few people my age who has never even touched a woman before. Over the years I’ve been thinking about how I got to this point and I’ve narrowed it down basically to undiagnosed neurodivergence or being so physically unappealing that women do not want to be near me. Socially, I can be quite socially awkward. I’ve always had friends, but very few and making new ones is an obstacle of its own. Despite all of this, I am about to graduate college, go into a prestigious masters program, and then start full time at one of the best companies in the world for my field. The older I’ve gotten and the more I’ve realized how socially behind I am compared to my peers, the more I’ve essentially accepted my situation and just focused on my studies. Does anyone else deal with the same thing? It’s gotten to the point where i honestly don’t even care too much if I die a virgin

Just curious what religion you follow

I'm not sure if this is the right subreddit for this kind of question bit I thought maybe some guys can relate. I'm 28, I'm nit really good in social situations with people I don't know,sometimes even with people I do know and I never even kissed someone.

I noticed that I try to avoid looking at women I find attractive in public because I feel that I'm objectifying them in that moment. It is espacially bad in the summer when they wear more revealing clothing than in the winter. To be clear they have every right to wears these cloths. It's just that when I see them and I get sexual thoughts I feel like I have to shut those down so I don't objectify them.

Did you ever have similar thoughts and if yes what helped you? Thanks for reading and stay hydrated.

I (21F) am a virgin and looking for advice to repress the urges. Recently I'm genuinely thinking about just going out to a bar and finding some older experienced guy to lose my virginity to. Please help. What are some things I can do to repress the urges?

I tell a lot of things to her, but lately I've told her that I do have women friends but when it comes to someone I see attractive I just avoid or ignore. I know my mom is no psychologist but idk where to vent, my father and I don't talk and it's infuriating that I don't have sex at all.

I’m 28M and virgin.

I’ve got heavy insecurity about my penis. From my POV it looks small and skinny and it’s been in my head for years. It’s stopped me dating properly because I’m scared a girl will judge it, laugh, or talk about it, especially if she’s been with other guys.

My numbers, for context
Bone pressed length using a tape along the curve is about 5.0 to 5.1.
Erect girth is about 3.9 to 4.2.
Soft varies a lot because I retract.

I’m also embarrassed about condoms. I feel like I might need “snug” condoms and it makes me feel like I’m admitting I’m small before anything even happens.

People always say hands and mouth matter, but I genuinely don’t know what I’m doing. I’m worried I couldn’t handle a casual, fast vibe because I’d be nervous, slow, and overthinking.

Extra context
A coworker has shown interest and I feel like she might want to hook up. That adds pressure because if it goes awkward, I still have to see her at work.

Questions
Are those sizes normal enough that I’m spiralling over nothing.
Do women care as much as men think about girth and thickness, especially for casual stuff.
If you were me and a coworker wanted to hook up, would you do it or would you slow it down because of the work situation.
How do you stop the shame and comparison loop.
Any basic tips for being inexperienced so I don’t look clueless.

I do but i wonder if its really similar to fucking an actual vagina.

I’m 28 and I have self esteem issues and self hatred. Growing up, when in high school, I would try to talk to guys and try to date them, but of course I was the ugly one and my friends would actually start dating them and I always felt gross and disgusting when that happened because why were my friends dating but I wasn’t?

Even now as a 28 year old, I feel the same exact way. I want to date, I want to have those experiences, but I know I won’t. It’s silly, but I want to go on movie dates and carnival dates and have someone play those carnival games and win me a stuffed animal, but I know I’m probably too old for those high school, puppy love like experiences.

I’m not attractive in the slightest. I’m not even remotely pretty and no amount of changing my appearance or working out works for me at all.

I’m ashamed to be 28, never dated, never kissed, never had any sexual experiences and it’s really starting to take a huge toll on me. I need human interaction, but no human would even dare interact with me.

I hate myself and I try to put myself out there, but no one even tries to talk to me or interact with me.

I don’t even know what I’m looking for from this post. Maybe someone feels the same way as I and I’m not the only one.

I hit it off with a girl, but said something dumb and in combination with awkward part of behavior she pulled back on dating me. I was a few days away from sleeping with her. I do not know if she has fully ended the thing between us or merely pulled back to reassess, but last time I saw her it was a mixed impression, saying something that could be seen as "it's over" but also wanting to hang out with me.

Either way, I am now overthinking if I have a shot with her or to just move on. I miss her for far more than physical affection, mostly emotional experience, but I find losing virginity symbolically important. Like a sign I am becoming a normal person, unlike weirdo who has not had sex by mid 20s. I came so close and now may be back to square one.