r/virgin

I literally just saw a young person put a heartfelt success story on here to try to be helpful and encouraging to those wtill yearning for it. And maybe to celebrate their success a bit after a long wait and difficult struggle.

But one bitter person writes

"Nobody Cares"

And the young person replied "Oh" and immediately .removed the post.

People should not be discouraged so quickly because of one negative comment.

I also hear about women who feel discouraged to post here just because they get negative comments from bitter men invalidating their experience.

Why give negative people so much power, when you get support for your posts from so many other people?.

JMO

Hi all. 28M virgin here. Somewhat by choice. Haven't had many chances to lose it, and I am a bit shy/awkward at first, but I'm also funny and witty sometimes, and I feel like I probably have enough "rizz/game" or whatever you wanna call it, to actually pull it off, if I made a proper effort to go to clubs/bars to enter the "realm" of hookup culture, and lose it to some random woman.

The thing is, I don't want a random woman. I want someone in a similar situation. Why? I wanna do it with a girlfriend, who's on the same boat as me. Or maybe even find a girl, and wait for marriage. I guess it's just a romantic fantasy that I want to fulfill. I have nothing against non-virgins. It's just the way that I'm wired.

I know this question has been asked before, but the usual advice given is just "go to your local church/religious community". And while that is probably solid advice for religious people, it wouldn't work for me as I'm not religious. Nothing against religious people, but I'm also not gonna start attending some local church, and pretend to be something I'm not just to find a girlfriend, as that's deceitful and just plain wrong. Besides, I don't think that would work on my country, since most people here are encouraged to lose it at a young age, despite it being "catholic" on the surface.

Now, since church is out of the question, where do we go from here? There are no nightclubs or bars specifically for virgins. There is no "virginfest" or whatever it was called, anywhere in Europe. There's no irl space taylored for virgin men and women to meet, and to look for a romantic partner. So my only option seems to be online dating.

But online dating is not exactly ideal. First of all, there are no apps specifically for virgins in my region. The closest thing we have is an app called Salt, but that's an app for Christians, so it wouldn't work for me. It's also completely deserted, like most apps that aren't the conventional ones (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, etc...). And most people on mainstream dating apps aren't virgins. And those who are, usually don't advertise it, so I'd have no way to know. The amount of virgin women who are actively looking for virgin men on dating apps, is probably less than 1%.

And even if I'm lucky enough to stumble upon such a woman, what is the likelihood that we'll match? Apps like those are usually purely based on looks, and they're worse than ever before, if you're not a Chad McHot. Long gone are the days of 2017-2019, where a guy like me could pull off 15+ matches in a week. These days, I'm lucky f I get 3 matches a week, and I'm left wondering if they're bots lol.

So yeah, I really don't know what to do. And I'm starting to worry, as I'm at a point where I'm slowly entering a new stage in life, possibly moving to a different country in a few months, and lots of things are changing, and I didn't want this box to be left unchecked. I'm also close to 30, which is scary, and I wish my romantic life was at the very least, headed somewhere when I got there.

Anyways, sorry for the rant. But if any of you have suggestions, I'm all ears.

Im a 28 y.o male.

Never touched a vagina.

I was born via c section. So not even out the gate. ((I was the fattest babies born in the hospital that year. 12 pounds 10 oz. 10 months in the oven. Evicted without cause))

So what kind of virgin am I?

I don't care that "there is more to life than sex". There is more to life than drinking water, but if I don't drink water, I will die. Living without sex may not kill me, but it certainly condemns me to eternal misery. How is that any better?

Lifelong sexlessness infects every aspect of life. Outside of sex and relationships, I am actually more fortunate than most. But it is all for naught, because any joy or pleasure I would otherwise derive from those aspects is completely overwhelmed by the misery, anger and sadness I feel over missing out on sex.

I cannot think of a rational reason why I don't kill myself. I know why I don't: I hold an animalistic fear of death. But that is not a rational reason. I have no rational reason.

If I saw someone else in my position and they asked me to give them one good reason why they shouldn't kill themself, I could not give them one. What would I give them? If I was in their position, I'd want to kill myself too. Then I realize, I AM in their position.

me (19M) i am at first year in university getting electrical enginnering degree i want to find a wife after a graduate i am 180cm 71kg and i think i look ok when do yall think its time to find a wife who has same values as me virgin till marrige after or mid getting my degree

Yet another event failure, not suprised tbh. Nothing but younglings there, then there’s my ancient virgin ahh, none of the girl’s i know were there, just had a little chat with group of 3 girls that’s it.

Next event am going to is the Kpop concert in cinemas on 25th but will go alone sadly. Was planning on asking one of the girl’s ik but what are my chances none were there today…

No pm's. Only reason I did was because #1. Guys never liked me in school & #2. That's what society tells a girl is the right thing to do. The problem is now I don't even think I really want a relationship. I hate the apps, and I'm now at this point in life where I am an avid fan of being single and love my freedom. But at the same time I have this great desire for a relationship....not because of the relationship but because I want to have sex. But sometimes I wonder if I'd like a relationship but I'm just so jaded to being alone that I'm not sure. So I'm in a position where I don't know what the hell to do. I'm about to be 24 and I feel stuck. And it's too late to just go on the internet with a stranger and "get it over with" is the feeling I get sometimes....but at the same time I don't freaking know what to do because I also want to have sex!!!

The fucking title.