u/SavingsEbb3833

I’m curious if anyone else has experienced this because it feels so weird to me 😭

I’m a virgin, but I’ve still had people make slut-shame me, based on how I dress and look. I’ve gotten called a slut, a hoe, a whore, a thot, a skank, and loose, ice been shamed for being a single mom even though I don’t have kids, and i constantly get DM’s from guys saying outlandish things in an attempt to slut-shame me, It’s especially annoying because they literally don’t know anything about my actual life.

Has anyone else experienced being slut-shamed despite being a virgin? What did people say or assume about you?

It’s like a horror story dude, just imagine you’re stripped into nothing but a gown, in a cold room sitting on a cold metal chair with your feet strapped down in metal stirrups, legs splayed wide open while you stare at a drop ceiling with fluorescent lights blinding you, then a cold metal tube gets shoved into your vagina and stretches you open while the doctor tells you to calm down and says it’s not that painful, even while your crying.

i’m terrified

I’m genuinely so tired of a new derogatory term for women popping up every other week, foid, hiplet, titlet, makeupcel, etc. They’re overused, unoriginal, and even predatory sometimes. Literally on all of my posts, every single one of my posts on instagram is filled with guys calling me one of those 4 stupid ass names and they don’t even make sense, or are just straight up predatory.

“Foid” literally means “female humanoid.” The whole point of the term is to strip women of their humanity and reduce them to objects. It’s dehumanizing by design. Imagine looking at a picture of a teenage girl smiling at the camera and your first instinct is to tell her she’s nothing but an object.

“Hiplet” is supposed to mock women for having hip dips, which is one of the weirdest things to turn into an insult. Hip dips are a completely normal result of bone structure and fat distribution. Most people have them to some degree, men and women, and they aren’t a flaw that needs to be “fixed.” Creating an insult around a normal anatomical feature just encourages people (especially young girls), to become insecure about something they probably never would have thought twice about otherwise.

“Titlet” is another one I get constantly, and honestly it’s just predatory. If you see a completely innocent picture of a teenage girl’s face and your immediate thought is to get upset about the size of her chest, that’s incredibly inappropriate. Why are you thinking about a minor’s body in the first place? It’s not clever, it’s not funny, it’s creepy.

“Makeupcel” doesn’t make much sense either. The idea of it, is that women only wear makeup because they’re supposedly ugly without it. But people wear makeup for all kinds of reasons, self-expression, creativity, confidence, special occasions, or simply because they enjoy it. Assuming every woman who wears makeup is trying to “hide” something is a weird projection. And even the word itself doesn’t really work. The suffix “-cel” comes from “involuntary celibate,” so attaching it to makeup to then shame women who wear makeup makes no sense, how can you wear makeup and be a makeup celibate at the same time?

The thing that annoys me the most is what happens when I call this behavior out. Without fail, someone responds with, “Well, men can’t control their height.”

What does that have to do with me?

I’ve never mocked a guy for being short. I’ve dated multiple guys who were shorter than me, including some under 5’6”. I don’t care about height. Even if some women do judge men for it, that still wouldn’t justify harassing random girls who have nothing to do with those experiences.

If someone has been treated unfairly because of their height, that’s unfortunate, and they deserve empathy. But sexualizing, dehumanizing, and dragging teenage girls on the internet isn’t a solution. It just creates more negativity and really isn’t helping your case.

Whenever my mom gets upset at me, she uses my dads name like an insult and calls me it, then whenever she gets mad at my step-dad or siblings, she uses my name as an insult.

Idk how to really explain it, but like imagine someone going like “shit up bitch!” But instead they replaced bitch with a somebody they don’t like’s name.