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First of all, I'm a middle aged man, and don't have children of my own, but I do have a 19-year old niece, and her mother was telling me that she had to go into her bedroom in the middle of the night, recently, to end a voice call between my neice and the guy she's dating.

They were both sleeping, and the snoring coming from the tablet was so loud, it was interfering with my sister's sleep.

She went on to tell me that my niece and this guy are almost never not digitally connected.

She carries 'him' (the tablet) through voice call, around the house, to the bathroom, to the kitchen while she cooks, and then even during sleep, they're still connected.

They're not always talking, but he's always "there". It's becoming really inconsiderate too, because she won't even end the call during family time. She'll have him switched on while she's having a conversation with her mother or another family member.

I didn't grow up in the digital era. I was 23-24 when YouTube came online. So neither I, nor my sister's had a relationship or friendship where we could literally be connected to people we like, all the time, when we were growing up.

I also think my sister shares some responsibility for this. She's not the best at setting boundaries or disciplining, setting bedtimes, etc, when my niece was younger.

My niece was homeschooled for health reasons, so she hasn't had a lot of experience with kids her own age, growing up, so spent most of her time, making friends online. They even work online. I don't know what, I think she does something on Tiktok, with him.

It's been going on for a couple of years, and I definitely don't think it's mentally healthy (to almost never be apart from someone), but I was wondering how normal this is among teens and young adults? As i say, it's outside of my wheelhouse.

Hey guys , basically during this vacation i flipped night and day , waking up at night and sleeping at day , yesterday i woke up at 9 pm , decided to not sleep until 8pm so i would wake up at morning , slept at 4pm. , and now here i am , awake at 2 am , very frustrated , can i do 8pm this time ?

If a master artist spends ten years painstakingly painting a hyper-realistic landscape, and another person randomly drops a bucket of paint that miraculously splatters into the exact same perfect landscape, are they both equal works of art? Does the 'art' live in the final visual result, or entirely in the human struggle and intention required to create it?

I didn't blink at all and remember seeing everything purple for the entire day

Hi, I'm struggling with bad memories after being betrayed multiple times. I don't want to go into detail, but it's from people I considered close to me.

I don't trust any human at this point, in fact I'm just merely using your information. People are data to me.

Feel free to change my mind.

EDIT: I've had to sit with sudden anger that it took an hour or two just to calm down.

2 other male friends but I have a girl i’ve been with 3+ years and i’m just nervous about them being home together while im at work on some days, i feel i may have to go another route but i also feel i could trust her and my friends

I’ve been thinking about the things people value differently after they’ve had more time to test what actually improves daily life. The obvious answers are health, sleep and time, but I’m more interested in the less predictable shifts. What became substantially more important to you over time?

The other day, I was driving on the highway. Suddenly, there's a very reckless driver who are just zig-zagging past everybody with his sport car. Intuitively, I slowed down a bit because it's possible he would get into an accident just ahead and I don't want to get into an accident.

But then I thought to myself, do I care if this person gets into an accident? Would I even stop to help? Sadly, the answer is a big fat NO. I was even secretly HOPING the person would get into a solo accident with the way he was driving.

It then got me thinking, do others think like this too? Would someone considered a good person think like this? How can a good person be glad if someone gets into an accident and very possibly pass away with the speed he was going?

I have been wrestling with this question for a long time. I believe we can have a good discussion on this.

Let me describe an incident to you(Couldn't find any better):

You are jobless, have to attend 2 Online assessments, one in-person at an exam center and the other is regular online, then travel back 10-12 Km to write 2nd one, and there is an important family gathering today afternoon.

1st assessment: 10:00AM - 1:00 PM
2nd assessment: 2:00PM

- You bombed the first one, came with a friend and intended to go back with them.
1:10-15 PM: But they suddenly have to go in the opposite direction, and now you're left on your own.
- You book a ride and reach home at 1:35 PM, but there is a power cut in your house and no charge in the laptop.
- You head to your uncle's house where a family gathering is happening, but there was also a power cut around 1:45-50 PM,
- Then your father suggests your uncle's shop which might have power and wifi, and it did. Barely made it in time to attend the OA.

Now here is the question, in the above scenario you had many reasons/excuses to give up, like no power at both the places, had a family gathering afternoon, etc, but when you attended the assessment those became excuses, otherwise they all may have been plausible reasons.

What is the line between an Excuse and a Reason?
Do their meanings differ by the what you prioritize?
Or is it your desire towards an outcome that decides which is a reason and which is an excuse?

After much thought,
Reason: Anything that directly influences you/situation in achieving your desired outcome
Excuse: Everything other than that

Is this correct? I don't know, lets talk

EDIT: I did not mention this clearly, the OA's cannot be re-attempted and they are your entry to landing an interview

Hi everyone, first of all I am not vegan but I've had this question in my mind for a while now and i am actually curious.

Are products made by humans under poor working conditions vegan?

For example fast fashion or chocolate production often exploits humans=animals but is that part of veganism? And if it is not, why is it not?

Thank you for your replies!

How can I trust again in relationship?

I am 18 year old and gotten out really toxic relationship.

She would manipulative me,lied about we can't date then find out she was fucking some other guy because I was saving myself for marriage.

I moved on from her totally,but how I can trust someone again and enter a relationship.

I got kicked by relationships and everything about love it cause me odd feeling now.

I am part of a tight-knit 5-person friend group (all of us are between 17 and 18). A while ago, I was dating one of the girls in the group. We ended up breaking up strictly because her parents disapproved of us dating, but we ended on really good terms.

We managed to stay great friends for months after the breakup. We were practically best friends, and I completely moved on from the relationship.

But out of nowhere, her entire attitude toward me shifted. Now, she acts like she absolutely can’t stand my presence.It has gotten to the point where it is ruining our group hangouts. Whenever I join the group, she gets visibly pissed off and starts attacking me or snapping at me. Our mutual friends noticed this and asked her what the issue was.

Her only response to them was that she "can't explain why," but she just hates me for no reason.I’m stuck because I can't properly hang out with my friends anymore since she is always there making things hostile.

One of our mutual friends suggested a theory: because I have successfully moved on and she hasn't, she might be forcing herself to "hate" me as a defense mechanism to help herself get over it.I really don't want to lose my friend group, but I can't keep living with this tension and being attacked for no reason.

The Duluth model is a domestic violence framework that's been introduced and still defended by feminist to this day across North America since the 1980s. The whole thing is built on one idea that domestic violence is about men using patriarchal control over women. So when police show up or when someone calls a hotline, the man is treated as the aggressor by default.

The research doesnt even support that. The CDC's own data shows men and women experience intimate partner violence at way closer rates than this model assumes. Multiple studies have found that the most common pattern in Domestic Violence is actually "bidirectional" , not just men hitting women. Even Ellen Pence, one of the people who literally created the Duluth model, said before she died that they built the framework around ideology first and fit the evidence to match later.

So you have a policy framework that its own creator admitted was ideologically driven, that the data contradicts, and that results in male victims getting treated like perpetrators when they call for help. Normally when a policy is this far off from the evidence it gets reformed or replaced. This one hasn't.

Feminist organizations funded it, built it, got it embedded into law enforcement training and court programs, and now actively lobby against replacing it with gender neutral alternatives.

So what I want to understand is why this model specifically seems immune to reform. What is it about the politics around Domestic Violence policy that makes it so hard to update? And what does it say about how we handle gendered issues when the people being harmed by a bad framework are also the group with the least political leverage to push back on it?

I'm not being wierd or anything, just genuinely wanted to ask and hear other's thoughts about that

Like the society we have now is very lacking in helping people who are neurodivergent so I wondered how neurodivergent people would structure the world if they could.

And also I was thinking of some worldbuilding for one of the countries in one of my stories and wanted to explore that but my brain is not braining to any degree so I didn't want to do this alone, if that makes some sense

Hey got a question tho I hope it’s still long till then I like to already set up my last playlist. Now my question the song who wants to live forever from queen, am I the only one who thinks it will hit like a Bomb?

I know of the bluray forum, but not many other english ones. I know that it is very subreddit dependent but I'm so tired of the reddit jargon, first 10 posts (sometimes 100) are always a dry joke followed by comments like "Take my upvote!" etc. Its just a waste of words and a waste of time to sift through.

At the same time, reddit is the best resource for information and discussion in English, again its usually very dependent on the actual sub. I like reddit but its contra-productive and annoying with all the useless comments.

Hit me, it can be specific forums dedicated to one topic/interesst or general forums.