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I don't watch much soccer but if you give a solid but non star footballer (maybe Jordan Henderson from England as an example) an unlimited stamina, how good would he be? Would he be the best player in the world?

I’ve been thinking a lot about what happened this weekend, and I’m having a really hard time squaring the contrast of where we are versus where we should be.

On one hand, we are celebrating our 250th birthday. A milestone like that should be a huge, unifying occasion across the country. Places like DC, Philly, and other historic cities should be filled with people celebrating how far we've come over a quarter of a millennium. It feels like it should be an amazing opportunity to focus on what brings us together.

But the reality of what we actually saw in DC yesterday was the exact opposite. Instead of unity, there were over 400 white nationalists marching through the capital carrying Confederate flags and promoting hate. It is just a bizarre and frustrating disconnect to watch. How do we process that kind of friction? How do we navigate a major national milestone that should be a unifying celebration when our actual reality is this fractured?

I’m looking for an honest, civil conversation here. I wanted to post this outside of the usual political subreddits because I am exhausted by the constant noise and echo chambers. I'm just curious to hear how other people are processing the gap between what this milestone should be and what we are actually seeing on the ground.

Edit: I guess I shouldn't be, but I am genuinely surprised at the downvote-apallooza of this post. Case in point. Just trying to ask a question and even the conversation isn't seen as valuable. Maybe I'm just that out of touch.

that's it, that's the question.

I've been reading and watching things about Marlon Brando recently, because of how adored he is as an actor, but as a dig deeper into his personal life, he was pretty shitty but also profound.

He was a very dedicated supporter Civil Rights movements, had relationships with MLK and the Black Panthers. Funding them with the checks he got from films. He was extremely outspoken -- more so than many actors of his time, on the rights of black and brown and indigenous people. The guy was radical and spoke with his wallet.

With that being said, he was also a profound piece of shit. He was horrific to women and his children, with rumours that he SA'd one of his children and proof that he raped a woman with butter on set. He seemed to have a fetish for indigenous women, to whom he would exploit and the list goes on and on.

This, dichotomy of a person seems so striking. How can someone be capable of so much good and so much bad all at once?

It blows my mind when I think about the extraordinary amount of resources that get used each day. Electricity, gas/oil, water, food, ect. Yet, there seems to be enough that more than hundreds of millions of people each day in the United States can still fill their cars with gasoline, can still all charge their cell phones (which can last many hours after a single charge). I would think that the amount of money that is charged for resources we use are a reflection of their value, which is in some sense a reflection of their limited availability. How long can we realistically keep this up for? Will there ever come a point where we’ve essentially exhausted all resources that allow us to live the lives which we’ve become so accustomed to?

Any Ronaldo fans here who think there's a real possibility the allegations are true, but are still able to appreciate him as one of the greatest footballers ever?

I'd especially like to hear from men, because I'm genuinely curious how you reconcile those two things.

For me, I can separate someone's footballing ability from their character. I don't think acknowledging that someone is an incredible athlete automatically means you have to defend them as a person.

What I struggle with are fans who insist, with complete certainty, that the allegations are false or "just fake accusations." None of us knows that. You can acknowledge that there wasn't a criminal conviction while also recognizing that the allegations are serious and treating the alleged victim with empathy instead of dismissing her outright.

I'm not saying he shouldn't be held accountable if he committed the assault. I'm interested in how people who don't automatically dismiss the allegations reconcile admiring his football while grappling with the possibility that he may have done something terrible.

Can you build muscle while on a caloric deficit? If you only need (nutritionally) protein to repair and build the muscle, why the surplus? I've heard that the surplus helps gain weight, but weight doesn't necessarily mean muscle only, or muscle at all, even.

How, if necessary, does the surplus even factor in?

I’m not asking for medical advice I’ve already seen a doctor and have been given medication for it. I’m wondering how it made you feel. I’m not sure of my levels but my doctor said I was severely deficient. For the past almost a year now I’ve been more lazy and unmotivated I’ve ever been. I have zero energy, I’m emotionally on a roller coaster I feel like randomly tearing up over silly things. I’ve lost 15+ friends and I can’t cry but for some reason I get choked up over nothing. I used to work construction from 7-3 and then work as a server from 5-1 and now I’m struggling to get up for my one job. Have you ever struggled with this? Will it stop once my levels go up?

We all love philosophy and Socratic philosophers but at what cost. The pre Socratic philosophers were so great but due to Plato and Aristotle their works just vanished. According to Francis bacon, the pre Socratic philosophers works vanish due to Aristotle. They were so phenomenal in every subject especially in natural sciences. So now the question is we get the philosophy but at what cost !!!!

I have noticed that a lot of people in school/university judge a certain person so much for no reason when they don’t even know them. For example I have a friend who is a bit reserved and do not talk to people unless they actually wanna be friends w them or have some work which is understandable cause not everyone is very social and prefer to have very less friends in university.

Now this person gets judged a lot for bs reason like the way they walk or how they dont talk to a lot of people or how they are always seen alone. So I don’t get it why do people judge someone so much? Also this person has haters as well who they don’t even know or have never interacted with which is very weird cause why would you hate someone for no reason? and when I say never interacted it means never even said Hi Hello or any sort of convo. I really wanna what do you all think about this and why does it happen?

Whenever there is a pimp character, they all seem to have the same voice? Like a pimp named slick back, money mike, and pope sweet Jesus & good head mercy from norbit all seem to have the same voice, same speech patterns. Whose voice is that? Who is the original pimp they are imitating?

Kinda how there are a lot of Peter Lorre characters without people even knowing who Peter Lorre is.

I know it’s funny for the topic to be about a pimp, but please understand this is a serious question and I’m not trying to be funny.

There's a significant pattern in my life of 'thing I think is good turns out to actually be bad, things I think are bad turn out to be good'. To clarify I mean like in terms of a major opinion like in my different circles or popular opinion (depending on the topic) on a thing. Basically seems like my values just don't align with my folks, to a degree that doesn't feel like the natural variation.

The stuff that actually hurts is misunderstanding how close a relationship is. Or thinking I was trying to be supportive but actually just made someone uncomfortable or just made it worse for them emotionally. Asking seems to be the best action but still end up messing it up majorly.

Most is probably fairly mild though, but frustrating and confusing. Like thinking I did a good job on something, then learning I completely messed it up or missed the goal (and the opposite). Really enjoying a character/seeing myself in a character, then learning from others about how awful this character is/how they legit mistreated other characters. Similarly thinking a message of a show is positive, but turning out it was badly written and encouraging ideas other people disagree with *heavily.*

I wonder why? And how could I figure out how to be more in line?

Age regression is often looked down upon and oeople who are into that stuff are labeled as pedophiles. Wouldn’t it be similar to someone whos in bdsm? I think it’s a little scary that so many people are into this stuff, that they want to hurt others for their sexual gratification. I don’t understand can we get a conversation started down in the comments?

This is something I've noticed consistently since I was younger and I still don't fully understand it so I want real answers from both sides.

I've been with enough women at this point to know this isn't a one off thing. But there are three specific situations that really stuck with me and shaped how I think about this.

My first real experience with this was one of my earliest ever. Me and this girl, we'd been together a few times before but this particular time was different. More planned, longer, more intentional than the ones before. Afterwards we were in a good mood, joking around, she made a playful comment about me, and I responded as a joke saying something like "maybe I belong to everyone in the world." Just riding the energy of the joke, nothing behind it.

She was fine for about five minutes. Then I watched her quietly start gathering her things. I didn't even clock it at first. Then she walked out. I followed her, genuinely confused, asking what happened. She wouldn't really say much. I followed her to the elevator still trying to understand and that's when she finally said it. "Maybe you only see me as a tool."

I didn't even know what to say. It came from a joke that meant absolutely nothing. She didn't speak to me for three days.

That was the moment I first realized there's this window right after where you have to be extremely careful. My first instinct was that I just wasn't being intentional enough afterwards. So I started doing aftercare every single time without fail staying calm, telling them to relax, cuddling, not rushing anything, making sure the energy was warm before anyone moved. And it helped. But it didn't fully solve it. The shift still happened sometimes even when I did everything right.

Second experience. Driving a girl home after. Good silence, music playing, both just vibing, heads nodding. Genuinely good energy. Then out of nowhere she looks at me and goes "are you playing games with me?" Nothing had happened. We weren't even talking. I was just driving. I was so confused I didn't even know how to respond.

That confirmed it wasn't just one person. This was a pattern.

Then there was a different experience that actually taught me something. Concert, things got spontaneous, we found a dark corner, it was quick. Afterwards she's the one who pulled me into this big tight hug. I didn't really know what was happening so I just hugged her back, held it, kept it there until she started laughing and telling me to stop. And then the whole rest of the night was genuinely good. Easy, warm, no weird energy at all.

She told me later it was one of her best experiences. And I'm thinking to myself it was literally a quick spontaneous thing, I didn't do anything special. But then I remembered something called the Peak-End Rule, this psychology concept where the brain judges an entire experience based almost entirely on how it ended rather than everything that came before. And that ending was warm. So maybe that's why.

That's when I started calling it the big hug and doing it every time on top of the aftercare. Hold them after, tight, until the tension naturally drops and they're laughing and pushing me away. That's when I know the energy has settled.

It helped even more. But the pattern still didn't disappear completely across all my experiences. That sudden emotional shift, the question that comes out of nowhere, the coldness that wasn't there before it still shows up.

So I genuinely want to understand what's actually going on underneath all of it. Is it hormonal? Is it attachment stuff getting triggered? Is there something specific that makes it worse or better? Women especially what's actually happening in that moment from your side?

So me and missus had a fun discussion of which method is better for health:

1. I am sedentary during the day. My total steps from wake up - 5pm is only 1500 steps. But from 5-8, I play basketball with various intensity. My steps usually increase to 10k+ at the end of it.

2. My partner's job require her to walk with various intensity all the time. Her total steps from wake up-5pm is always above 10k steps. Afterwards, she went home and become sedentary.

Obviously both are far from perfect but assuming we ended up with the same amount of steps at the end of the day, which of the two are better for health? Please note this is only a fun discussion.