u/Marissa_on_the_town

Like I know it won't fix any deeper stuff but if one lady offers to marry some guys, they'd be part of a family and have a built in friend group or even build their friend group via marriage to this woman by scouting the way men who want many wives want their wives to do for them.

Someone once told me that being in the same place with the same interests is one of the best ways men make friends so...what's more same place and a connection than being married to one person

And it could help lessen the loneliness: They'd have each other and their wife, not be single, and other stuff

Edit: This would not be a mandate or anything, just a choice you can make. And again hypothetically and depending on the parties involved

I'm asking because I keep hearing about this epidemic and how its causing deaths at an alarming rate and how men not getting dates from women is causing it...and people responding by saying they're putting all their need for connection on women instead sharing it with each other...cause they think having male friends who are too close is "gay" or some shit and have some precedent to uphold

So it got me wondering...what about GBTQ+ men....are they also suffering from this? Like I get that there is a certain amount of loneliness for those who can't find a community or stay in the closet for their own safety, or adjusting to how different male socializing dynamics is from the female kind but in the matter of getting connection and friendship and stuff...are they feeling it the same way straight men are feeling it either with or without these additional intersections in their lives

I'm not trying to be weird or invasive or anything I just wanted to know if y'all are doing alright or worse or either way

OK so you know how they always say that if you do nice things for crows and ravens like feed them and stuff they'll start doing shit like bringing you trinkets and approaching you and teach their kids how cool you are and those kids will also be your friends

and that if you treat crows and ravens badly, because they're so smart they will hold grudges teach their children to hold a grudge and it'll just be a generational grudge holding against you and your family

But is there a way to rectify your reputation with them. Like hypothetically you or your parent did something bad to a crow and now they don't like you and their kids dont like you... but you want to change that, is there a way to change that?

I mean there's people in the real world always trying to reform their image with people... can that work with crows and ravens? Or is it that once you're a bad vibe.... you're a bad vibe?

I find myself dwelling too much on heavy topics and they've really weighed heavy on me and I cant seem to shake it so I wanted to ask about any light random topics people talk about normally in conversations.

So I sometimes come across the phrase "all art is political" and it sorta stumps me and makes me think that I've been missing something all this time cause...all of it. Every last piece of art ever. Creative, it depends but political...

And when people say that "oh, there's a POC character in this game...why is there politics in my media" it stumps me again cause it.... just a person of colour...social sure but political seems a weird thing to categorise a person

I guess its because growing up where I'm from, politics was...political things.

Making laws, having elections, listening and voting in elections, the government having deliberations about how to do things, being a member of a poltical party....those things. And everything else was for economic, social, art....that kind of stuff.

Even in my sociology class I was taught this thing called PREMEH: Politics, Religion, Education, Marriage, Economic and Health and how these pillars of society can influence one another from time to time...but never that it would define the actions of the other. Even if a law influences a hospital's building...its still a hospital.

Maybe I'm just no great skill at deeper media and world analysis and a little too burnt out from school to take stuff at anything but face value nowadays but I would be so grateful if anyone could help me understand this

Now I've always been a wierd person.

Growing up I felt unhuman and more of an alien observer than part of the group.

Not because I was stuck up or not like other kids of anything...

I was just painfully shy (don't know why I said was😅 I am still painfully shy, even online and talking here should be SO easy but...) and in my own world for a good part of that time( again don't know why I said was...wow I'm getting wierd...) and didn't have a lot of normal interests or mannerisms to make friends with-- don't get me wrong I had friends but about three or five of them were actual friendships and not just me being adopted by somebody who thinks I'm a fascinating specimen that keeps them guessing and is friendly

And I like to write so I've been looking into heavy topics to add to my writing to the point where I don't know what else to think about and need some light topics to discuss with others, with myself, in my writing just.....anything cause the tough stuff is starting to make my chest tight and overwhelm me too much and I'm pretty sure it's not that healthy

I thank you for getting this far in your reading and I would love to hear from you😅

What if she had decided to marry but secretly and had a child with her husband? Or just had an illegitimate child? Found some way to keep up appearances and then vanish and put the child somewhere safe until she could reintroduce them as a ward or just keep them away from court?

My hypothesis is that she'd act normal for a while and then decide to go on a hunting trip or something to get away from the capital and stuff, have the baby, pay off everyone, and perhaps leave said baby with an ally either in England or elsewhere. If any rumours surface, maybe she'd just add more rumours to discredit the major rumours and then make visits to said ally to see said child. And in case the ally turns on them she has servants loyal to her with the child

Or she could just put the kid in a convent or monastery to be raised and forget about them. Again not totally solid on it all and just asking about the possibility

I know Ren Faires are all about Medieval or fantasy cosplaying and having fun and stuff like that...which sounds awesome; wish they had that where I come from but there's mostly African Cultural faires, which are fun and make me feel part of my culture and all...but I've been enjoying fantasy solo for far too long

But...why is it named a Renaissance Faire if its not about the actual Renaissance?

Not that it shouldn't be allowed to be named that but most conventions about a subject...is usually about the subject?

Steampunk Conventions are about Steampunk.

Star Wars Events are going to be about Star Wars

So I just figured a Renaissance Faire...would be about the Renaissance? And sometimes I laugh at the thought of someone going in dressed like Catherine de Medici and wondering "Why are there so many wizards and fairies out here? Where's the Pope so I can help set up my niece's....'ward'.....into the papacy?"

What do people mean when they say somethings romanticised, normalized, or even demonized? Cause I hear it a lot and the definitions get overwhelming

I know that at the bare bones... romanticizing is when you show only good, normalizing is making something less bad and demonizing is showing only the bad but I'm still struggling to grasp an understanding of it.

What do people mean when they say somethings romanticised, normalized, or even demonized?

I know that basically romanticizing is when you show only good, normalizing is making something less bad and demonizing is showing only the bad but I'm still struggling to grasp an understanding of it.

Im trying to get back into fiction writing after being a little burnt out from university and I'm trying to understand so that I don't find myself doing stuff by accident and pay more attention because as of late I don't know if my feelings about stuff are my own anymore

I mean I know names are just noises people hear that they register as their name

But what do pets and animals hear when they hear their names? Do they just hear "Human noise that sounds familiar--best friend/servant is trying to get my attention"? Or do they know in their own animal way that it is their names?

And...do they have their own names among their own species? Like are they Melody in your home and maybe Firepaw among her friends? Are there any scientists out there on that or...

So yeah. Do animals know their names like we know our names or they just know the noise their human calls them by?