u/Turbulent-Clock-0206

I’m a 30 year old virgin and I’m scared I waited too long.

My friends (who don’t know) say it’s easy to find someone to sleep with. But if that’s true, how come it hasn’t happened it?

I think about it a lot - partially because I want to finally say that I’ve done it, partially because I know how good masturbation can feel and want to experience the real thing, and partially because I feel unattractive and unlovable since it hasn’t happened it. But even more than that, I want to share this experience with my forever person, and it makes me sad that I haven’t found them yet.

I feel like everyone I know has done it at least once. And I’m worried a future potential partner won’t understand/will be unsatisfied whenever the time arises because they will expect the same from me.

Just wanted to share with people who understand.

Edit: Please don’t solicit me for sex. I just wanted to vent to people who would understand what I’m feeling. Thank you!

My age: 30
Country: USA
Vet: accessible, but it usually takes a few weeks to get in
Cat: 4 yo M, neutered
Financials: can afford vet care

I took my son Juniper (4 yo neutered M) to get vaccines at the Vetco mobile clinic. He weighed 16 lb at that time, which is actually the same from three years earlier. The vet was shocked and said he was morbidly obese after feeling his ribcage. I was surprised to hear this because he was the biggest kitten in his litter and had been the same weight since hitting maturity. I have put him on a diet since getting this news but my friends and family think he is just a big cat and not obese like the vet said.

I guess I’m just wanting a second opinion?

Edit: Thank you for all your comments and recommendations!
I tried some of your tips and can say that it is very easy to feel his spine but takes a good bit more pressure to feel his ribs. I am wondering if he tends to keep a lot of extra weight in his chest.

Virgin 30F

Is my son “morbidly obese” like the vet said?