I (38m westerner) was traveling the world in 2025 and I visited Cebu where I met a girl (21f local) at Uptown (a club) in Cebu City. The first night we met, we hung out and danced and talked at the club for several hours. She was with her older sister. I told her about my travels and told her I wanted her to join me and show me around Cebu. I got her number.
We met a second time at the club several days later also with her sister. This time I took her back with me. What developed was a relationship where I stayed in Cebu for several more weeks to be with her. We travelled part of the time and she showed me Cebu and we had just honestly the best time of our lives or my life at least. I was falling pretty hard however we both knew it wasn’t a permanent situation. She knew I had a complicated situation back home since I was getting divorced and had to be back home for my job. After a few weeks, I had to leave her to go back home.
She presented herself as a quiet good girl student who worked at a a convenience store and hardly ever goes to clubs or is with a lot of guys. I believed her because I met her sister and just the way she described her life and also she seemed very sweet and caring (took care of me when I was in the hospital for food poisoning) . She also never asked me for a penny when we were together despite obviously not being very well off and knowing I had means . I just thought she was an honest and genuine person.
I kept in touch, not often but every month or so we would FaceTime. I sent her money 2x, once when she told me she was fired from her job and couldn’t afford tuition and another after the major typhoon and her family’s house was damaged. I offered this and she never asked for it. I was happy to help someone who meant something to me and it was a tiny amount for me but a major amount for her (a few hundred usd total).
6 months after me leaving I came back to Cebu to see her. Long story short, this time things ended not so great. She was skeptical of my intentions and I was unsure what I wanted. We left still good terms but more of a breakup (she broke it off with me). There was still sort of an opening to reach out I thought though but I never did. I was devastated but our relationship was never practical, I live extremely far away where I have a successful career.
She’s blocked me on Facebook which was upsetting but I thought she just wanted to move on. I still followed her on TikTok which I’m not active on and never check. Until yesterday when I did check it. She posted videos of herself extremely pregnant!!! I was there 6 months ago so the timing certainly lines up. Idk if it could be AI but it looked extremely real I really don’t think it was fake. I am freaking out.
So I am unsure what to do. She never reached out or asked anything of me. I guess the part that confuses me is if she was pregnant with another guy’s baby, that somewhat shatters the good girl image I had of her. Like based on what she told me she said she wasn’t promiscuous but given where we met, maybe I was being naive to believe her. I also know she’s young and smoking hot and obviously can attract a lot of men. I think if everything she told me is true, the odds of me being the father are high.
So hoping to get some perspective from this community. Given your knowledge of Filipino culture, does this sound like I’m naive for thinking she was an innocent girl with not a lot of sexual partners? Does her pattern of behavior throw any red flags to you? I don’t know if I should reach out.