Aitah for telling my mom to clean up after herself?
So yeah, I 15 F and my mom 38F are going through some turmoil. it might sound stupid but I'm genuinely going crazy over here because my mom keeps leaving shit to mold and at this point it's becoming a problem. She acts like a child and every time I tell her to clean up after herself like an actual adult she just blows up on me and tells me "I'll get to it" or "it's DELT with" and honestly it's not fucking delt with and it's pissing me off. She's absolutely disgusting and sometimes it makes me wish my parents would get a spontaneous divorce so I could leave this hell hole of a house behind. But every time I bring it up to my father, the only parent that doesn't scream at me for expressing my opinion and feelings, he just tells me he feels the same way and doesn't say anything to her, and might I add I'm autistic so I have many sensory issues that are triggered by the smell of rotting food and the feeling of sticky goop on the counters and floor. Not to mention my severe anxiety disorder that makes it impossible to talk to her and a trauma disorder that is VERY LIKELY from her. ever since my diagnosis last year my mom has been sorta piggybacking off it and saying she can't do this and that because it ALSO triggers her sensory issues despite the fact I do shit out of my comfort zone EVERY SINGLE DAY because of her. So yeah I'm mad and I don't know how to deal with because I'm scared of my mom. I'm scared she's gonna scream at me again or tell me something hella hurtful and I know communication is the right thing to do but I just can't talk to her without bawling my eyes out and running away like a coward. So I've come to the internet, what do I do? I love my mom but I CAN'T live like this anymore.
UPDATE: I spoke with my father about the whole ordeal and he told me there was nothing he could do because my mother doesn't listen to him either, apparently on several occasions my dad has asked my mom to go to therapy or clean up after herself and 'stop acting childish' (his words not mine) and every time she's laughed it off or lashed out at him, screaming at him and all that. I've personally heard a few of my parents marital spats and am honestly surprised how resigned to this my father seems, but then again it's his wife so in reality it's probably not too surprising to many outsiders.