u/Fit-Present6073

Hi everybody,
I am really going through some rough patch with my family. I get irritated easily. So all of this is because of kitchen hygiene. I literally yell at my mom and the rest when they leave the kitchen untidy and my mom hates me for picking on this things, she wants me shut up and clean or just leave it for her and just so you all know I live with my parents bcz it is common in our culture to do so. But my mom literally says pretty mean things to me she says that when I get married and go to my in-laws place if I keep up with this attitude they will not bear me.
So please give me some suggestions how do i deal with this. Am I in the wrong here?
I get pretty mad and start throwing things.