When will my taste in men mature? 😭
I'm 33, male, gay, smart, educated, 6 figure job, etc. However, I always find myself gravitating towards a type of man that frankly I believe I should have left in my 20's.
It's the type of man that is covered in tats, wears a backward baseball hat, sometimes wears sportswear as everyday clothes, looks "Street smart", smokes weed and has questionable morals. Yep, it's the typical bad boy / hood / cholo kinda dude. If you speak Spanish, it's the typical "Chacal".
I really dislike this taste of mine because, ok, the physical attraction is there, the sex is always incredible, however, I always end up in some sort of trouble or headache with these type of dudes. Nothing illegal or intense but just issues that wouldn't exist if I dated more adjusted men, you know, with a career, with emotional intelligence, button up shirt, etc. Someone you could introduce to your mom lol.
The thing is, I don't gravitate towards these types of men, I don't know why but I suspect it's similar to this popular notion that "girls like bad boys". I know that my taste in men are not good for me in the longterm.
Most of my friends have very mature taste in men and I wish I was there with them. To clarify, when I say "Mature" I'm referring to cognitive aspects, not age, I like my men no younger or older than 5 years to me.
Anybody else have a similar experience? if so, care to share?