I initiated the breakup. Rehab, please help
My (ex?) and I have been together a few years. He’s cheated on me endlessly. He’s currently in rehab. I have used this opportunity to break up with him since it’s easier with him not being here. We’ve always broken up and gotten back together. I never cheated on him.
Thing is, it seems like he’s gotten better of course since he’s been sober before rehab even. I was hoping he would go to rehab so that I could break up with him safely, it’s hard to when he’s physically here bc he makes it impossible. He gets aggressive.
I’ve known I needed this opportunity. I messaged his friend saying what was happening, and that when he gets out he can talk to me through him to get all of his stuff and that his friend can communicate with him to me. I won’t be here when he gets his stuff.
It just sucks bc I’m waiting until tomorrow for whenever he calls and to tell him that it’s over. I’m scared. It’s going to feel awful. But I already messaged the friend to initiate this.
Please just give advice for these types of abusive relationships and getting out. I feel so guilty and know this is my only chance. I feel so guilty and sad. Like I’m never going to be normal again to have a good relationship.