25M 27F Need advice on relationship. We both love each other but from different states.
Need advice on relationship. We both love each other but from different states.
So me (25 M) and colleague (27 F) known each other since 2023. We work together in office. There was connection between us initially. No one confessed till last year second half. we just went on one movie date and marine drive. I am from MH she is from KL. She was worried about people thinking affair and all. Hence she avoided me. Now during second half of last year somewhere around October she was very low i was too we both opened up ourselves. I proposed her she even firstly denied saying this wont work we have no future together, still I insisted and we went on going on different places just to explore Mumbai. Later we got intimate also. I invited her to my place also initially she rejected then now it has been like live in relationship then one day i found out about her past she was having someone whom with she did all things i got shocked because she never mentioned him to mee and i was clean slate so i expected clean slate but ik not fair but i asked her and she rejected the truth started out crying loudly then we almost brokeup since it was office we didnt do any drama but ppl figured out that and she was about to return all my things until i got job offer and i put the papers. This changed everything and she came back life very few days left so we lived like husband wife and all .. all those exploring mumbai and then one day she gets call from her mom saying we are looking for boys for arrange marriage. She cried a lot i was not present at that time in office. I was on long leave i cancelled i came back then told her to tell about ourselves then she said this wont work.. i dont want to hurt my parents and she has no time she has to marry someone they see her future with. We cried like i am putting lot of efforts for this relationship to become marriage. Only difference is culture. She is worried how will her parents communicate to me they only know Malayalam.Another reason she is saying is she has younger sister lined up for marriage and at my fam i have older brother who is not married yet. So how we will manage?? I even thought of this but I dont care about this unfortunately society wont accept us but we really love each other. We then went on two trips. She loved it. Then back to third guy i mentioned i logged inti her social media and i found out he is messaging her to visit. She didnt met him since we were together but she is keeping his messages and deleting the intimate messages he sent. I was about to ask this till that she found out i logged in into her ac. She got mad. Ik anyone could but still she defended him saying he is great guy .. she was alone hence she got involved in him and she deleted her social account. She even told me whats the problem if she even meet me after i gone? I said i am jealous and i want you to not go to him. She i have trust issues. Tomorrow is my lwd in office. She is gone to her hometown. She will back soon we decided even to celebrate my birthday. She bought me clothes before living. Thing i forgot is no one knows about her at my fam except my brother that too she is just colleague. At her place her fam knows about me but just a colleague.
I need any expert on cross culture marriage.