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I’ve been doing emdr with my therapist and something that came up was an uncomfortable situation with my dad. Without getting into detail, I witnessed him and his girlfriend getting kinda handsy while I was in the room. I was not touched, invited to join or anything like that-I just thought it was weird.

I mentioned this in emdr, and the next session she told me that she asked her supervisor if she can report it, but because of my age at the time she couldn’t. She then asked me if he had any contact with kids and pressed me about how old I was when this happened and seemed to be trying to get me to state that I was younger than I had initially said. I completely understand that she is a mandated reporter, but what I said absolutely did not warrant even looking into reporting in my opinion. After this I felt super uncomfortable doing emdr because I’m not in control of what comes up. And I felt like if I said anything further, she might report him. I started doing more talk therapy during my sessions from that point on.

Today, she asked me about it. She said she could tell I was hesitant about emdr and I was honest with her about my concerns. She basically told me that she can’t report him for what I had already told her, but that since he has access to kids (seeing my nice and nephew). She has no reason to think that he’d ever behave inappropriately with a minor. I was also in my early 20’s when that situation with my dad happened.
I feel like she is looking for reasons to report him at this point. She also told me that I’ve been treating her like a mentor and not like a therapist. This made me feel awful because I feel like I only treat her as a therapist, but a lot of the things I talk about relate to my career as I am in college and working towards grad school. So that’s naturally, that’s what comes up for me. She basically told me I need to be doing emdr and she is very against talk therapy. But it’s also worth noting-she is in I’m the process of getting certified in emdr, and it feels more like a personal interest of hers rather than what’s actually best for me.

I just feel…weirded out by all of this? I haven’t had that much experience with therapy before so I don’t know if this is a red flag or not.
What are your thoughts?

I’ve been doing emdr with my therapist and something that came up was an uncomfortable situation with my dad. Without getting into detail, I witnessed him and his girlfriend getting kinda handsy while I was in the room. I was not touched, invited to join or anything like that-I just thought it was weird.

I mentioned this in emdr, and the next session she told me that she asked her supervisor if she can report it, but because of my age at the time she couldn’t. She then asked me if he had any contact with kids and pressed me about how old I was when this happened and seemed to be trying to get me to state that I was younger than I had initially said. I completely understand that she is a mandated reporter, but what I said absolutely did not warrant even looking into reporting in my opinion. After this I felt super uncomfortable doing emdr because I’m not in control of what comes up. And I felt like if I said anything further, she might report him. I started doing more talk therapy during my sessions from that point on.

Today, she asked me about it. She said she could tell I was hesitant about emdr and I was honest with her about my concerns. She basically told me that she can’t report him for what I had already told her, but that since he has access to kids (seeing my nice and nephew). She has no reason to think that he’d ever behave inappropriately with a minor. I was also in my early 20’s when that situation with my dad happened.
I feel like she is looking for reasons to report him at this point. She also told me that I’ve been treating her like a mentor and not like a therapist. This made me feel awful because I feel like I only treat her as a therapist, but a lot of the things I talk about relate to my career as I am in college and working towards grad school. So that’s naturally, that’s what comes up for me. She basically told me I need to be doing emdr and she is very against talk therapy. But it’s also worth noting-she is in I’m the process of getting certified in emdr, and it feels more like a personal interest of hers rather than what’s actually best for me.

I just feel…weirded out by all of this? I haven’t had that much experience with therapy before so I don’t know if this is a red flag or not.
What are your thoughts?