My brother's approach to helping me is stressing me out
My older brother has been very pushy about me moving forward with adulting. But pushy in a way that's very annoying and has made my anxiety worse. Whenever I talk to him, every conversation always goes back to jobs or driving. He always asks why I don't seem "hungry enough" to improve my life. He always pulls ne out of my room to give me pep talks, and recently something happened where he got even more pushy. To summarize briefly, my mom met someone who was in my field and that person wanted me to call them. I did attempt to and tried texting, but kept getting invalid number messages and when I called the phone kept ringing without a way for me to leave a voicemail. Idk if this person has an email.
I will admit, I don't like calling people, which is why I tend to not call back jobs after applying, but also because I don't want to be annoying. Back to the topic, my mom told my brother, and now he's forcing me to contact this person. Literally said I had no choice. That he was going to keep asking me about it until something happened. Maybe I'm in the wrong for being passive, but this approach has made it hard to be around him. I do want to improve myself and become an independent adult, but this pushiness and constant motivational/deep talk overwhelms and stresses me out more than anything.
I do appreciate that he cares, but it's been really hard to handle lately. He even mentioned that he's projecting onto me because he's hard on himself despite doing much better than I am. (A steady job, responsible, has a car, etc)
TL:DR- My brother is extremely pushy in wanting me to become an independent adult. I find his approach harmful rather than helpful. After a possible opportunity, my brother insisted I chase after it and said I had no choice but to do it, or else he'd ask until I did.