r/problems

I got a letter yesterday saying the house I've been renting for the past two years is being sold. The new owners want it vacant, so I have until the end of next month to move out. I wasn't given any warning before this, no conversation, nothing, just the letter taped to my door when I got home from work.

I live alone and I don't have family nearby I can stay with temporarily. My lease doesn't end for another five months, but apparently there's a clause about the property being sold that lets them end it early with notice, and I didn't even know that clause existed until I actually sat down and reread the whole thing last night.

I make enough to cover rent somewhere else, but not enough to cover a new deposit, first and last month's rent, and moving costs all at once with only three weeks to save or figure it out. Every apartment I've looked at so far either wants a 650+ credit score, which I don't have because of some old medical debt, or wants proof of income that's higher than what I currently make.

I've started applying to a few places today but haven't heard back from anyone yet. I'm trying not to panic but I keep running the numbers in my head and they don't add up no matter how I look at it.

If anyone has been through something like this, especially with a short notice move and tight finances, I could use advice on what to actually prioritize first. I don't even know if I should be calling a lawyer about the notice period, or just focus all my energy on finding a place fast.

I will be 100% honest, I am looking for help my channel got banned wrongfully for circumvention, I have appealed and they still said i deserve the ban now i am waiting for some twitter messages. I had a second account that got banned for scam/spam because my account got hijacked and idk what the person did with it so I was ok with the ban, but on this current account i didnt post, comment, and i only like some music video. And I am not posting this on the partnered youtube subreddit because i dont have karma. Opinions? Do you think I deserve the ban, or that I will get my account back?

I can’t post because of my girl cousin, I can post anything a trend like I am going to turn into whatever she just asked me to delete that because I look weird in it why cant I post in my ACCOUNT it’s super annoying and she’s making me lose a lot of stuff like I really wish I can do something, but I can’t i AM not ranting

​I live in Latin America, and my home life is extremely dysfunctional. My parents argue constantly, and it has taken a massive toll on my mental health. I took a job purely to earn my own money without strings attached and save up enough to finally move out.

​A few months ago, a new pizzeria opened in my small town, and I got hired. The problem is that the four managers all previously worked together at McDonald’s, and several coworkers are part of their old crew, too. It’s an exclusive inner circle, and the blatant favoritism was obvious from day one.

​I’m naturally a hard worker and take pride in doing a good job, but management completely takes advantage of that. I do twice the work of other people while getting paid less, while the "boss's pets" literally stand around doing nothing and face zero consequences. To make matters worse, management never acknowledges the effort I put in—instead, they constantly nitpick and nag me over small things they completely let slide with their favorites.

​I’m currently still on my probationary/trial period, which makes the whole situation terrifying. I’m constantly anxious that they’ll let me go under the excuse that I’m "not meeting expectations," which would be infuriating after how hard I've busted my ass for them. It completely ruins my mental health to feel so unvalued and targeted despite giving my all.

​The worst part is that I already completed my degree, but finding a professional job in my field has felt impossible. Getting rejected everywhere while being stuck in fast food—an industry I despise—makes me feel unmotivated, trapped, and depressed. Because I live in a small town, other job options are practically nonexistent. I desperately need this income to get out of my house, but working in this toxic environment is breaking me.

​How do you mentally survive an unfair, dead-end job with toxic management when you genuinely can't afford to walk away? Any advice on how to protect your peace and navigate a trial period without losing your mind would be really appreciated.

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Mich interessiert eure ehrliche Meinung dazu.

Es geht um eine Person im Alter von ungefähr 21–23 Jahren, die relativ häufig andere Menschen in ihrem Umfeld nach Geld fragt teilweise zum Leihen und es dann ein Monat später oder n längere Zeit nicht kommt oder garnicht.

Das Problem für mich ist vor allem: Die Menschen, die gefragt werden, sind selbst erst 19–25 und teilweise finanziell überhaupt nicht gut aufgestellt. Manche haben gerade genug Geld auf dem Konto, um ihre eigenen Lebenshaltungskosten zu bezahlen und sich selbst über Wasser zu halten.

Ich persönlich finde es ziemlich unverschämt, in so einer Situation immer wieder Freunde oder Freundin um Geld zu bitten.

Besonders frage ich mich, warum man nicht zuerst die eigenen Eltern oder andere Familienmitglieder fragt, wenn diese finanziell seit Jahren stabil sind und beispielsweise 3-4 stellig auch gern mehr für sie nicht dieselbe finanzielle Belastung darstellen würden.

Ich selbst wenn ich finanziell nicht klarkäme, würde ich eher mein Ego überwinden und meine Eltern fragen, sofern diese die finanziellen Möglichkeiten dazu hätten, als jemanden um Geld zu bitten, der selbst gerade erst versucht, sein eigenes Leben aufzubauen.

Ich finde es ehrlich gesagt ziemlich unverschämt, einer anderen Person möglicherweise finanzielle Probleme zu bereiten (auch wenn „beunabsichtigt oder nicht darüber nachgedacht), nur damit man gegenüber den eigenen Eltern nicht zugeben muss, dass man selbst gerade nicht klarkommt.

Mich interessiert deshalb:

Wie findet ihr dieses Verhalten grundsätzlich?
Macht es für euch einen Unterschied, ob das Geld tatsächlich zurückgezahlt wird oder nicht?
Würdet ihr selbst einen Freund/eine Freundin regelmäßig nach Geld fragen, wenn diese Person 19–25 ist und selbst gerade finanziell auf eigenen Beinen steht?
Findet ihr, dass man in so einer Situation eher die eigenen Eltern fragen sollte, wenn diese finanziell deutlich besser aufgestellt sind?
Und ab wann würdet ihr sagen, dass aus „jemanden gelegentlich um Hilfe bitten“ ein problematisches oder respektloses Verhalten wird?

Ich suche ausdrücklich nicht nur Zustimmung. Mich interessiert, wie ihr das unabhängig von meiner persönlichen Meinung bewertet.

It took me over 4 hours to read the book a short stay in hell which is about 26,000 words or 104 pages. I have spent most of this year trying to improve my reading speed as I was sick of being behind in school and I start college this coming September and when I say trying I mean TRYING I have read approximately 3,581,693 words in books this year and some change for the books i didn’t log which may not sound like a lot but with my reading speed it has taken a hefty amount of time I’m still so slow. I have zero struggle understanding what I’m reading and making my own opinions on what I’m reading it’s just the act of reading that is hard. I have always struggled with reading I was taken out of class to read extra all through primary school I just don’t know what to do anymore I can be fully immersed in what I’m reading taking zero breaks and still I am slow I am so tired and frustrated with this and myself.

hi everyone, this is my first time using reddit. i recently deleted instagram and tiktok because i realized that social media was affecting me in ways that weren’t good for me, and i wanted some space to reflect.

i’m looking for some outside perspectives on something that’s been on my mind. about a year ago, i made a serious mistake in a relationship. i was unfaithful, and the relationship ended because of it. i take responsibility for what i did, and i don’t expect anyone to pretend that it wasn’t wrong. after the relationship ended, i spent a lot of time reflecting on my behaviour and the kind of person i wanted to become. since then, i’ve made changes in my life and intentionally stopped some of the habits and behaviours that i realized could make other people uncomfortable or hurt them. i know that changing doesn’t erase what i did in the past. i also understand that people who knew me before may still remember me based on who i was at that time

but i’m struggling with something: how much should someone’s past define how others see them? if someone genuinely acknowledges their mistakes, takes responsibility, changes their behaviour, and continues trying to be better, is it fair for people to continue viewing them as the same person forever? i’m not asking anyone to excuse what i did. i’m more interested in hearing how you personally view people who have made serious mistakes but genuinely changed afterward. do you believe people can outgrow the version of themselves that hurt others, or will their past always be part of how they should be judged?

Hiii,

Maybe you don't know me but I'm Leo!😊

So, as you saw from the title, I have a very serious problem with my OWN COUSIN!!!

And yeah, it's not a prank!😭

So, I'll start from the beginning of the problem;

We are going back in the year when I was at the fifth grade of school. My cousin was one year older than me and he was at the sixth year of school.

At some point, we had gym outside and I went with my friend in the second floor where our class was.

As we were going to our class, we saw my cousin with his friends (I think three of them?) coming from my class but laughing!!

Okay, at some point I thought that maybe some of my classmates are friends with him but.....NOPE!!!

After two days, my she-friend came to me and to my friend and she said to us that someone left under her desk some love letters!

I was like "Oh my God!! Who can do something like that?" and then my friend turned to me and he said that maybe my cousin did it.

We went the three of us in our teacher and we talked with her our problem and with the idea that she could help us.

We had this situation for about two weeks? And another time we talked with my cousin's parents and it became a battle....really!

Anyways, after about 3 (three) to 4 (four) years, all the summers we were hanging out together and with my brother together but he had a very strange feeling.

And this summer, he started (my cousin) making us his slaves saying to us without kindness to open the lights, to open his phone, his bag and....for some reason me and my brother continued doing that things without wanting to do it.

Anyways, I am trying to find a way to get rid of him and I want your help!😊

(If someone didn't understand the whole thing because from english or because I said that quickly, you can ask me or in my profile or in these comments to tell him the whole story and how begun)

Anyways, Thank you for your help!😊🫡

Hello, I am a 22-year-old college student from Iraq. For about seven years, I have not been able to find any job opportunities. Some of my relatives fired me from jobs so that their own children could work instead. I looked for work through my friends, but I could not find anything.

My mental health is exhausted and getting worse every day. I suffer from depression and generalized anxiety disorder. When I was young, I was sexually assaulted by my cousin.

I cannot sleep properly. I honestly cannot remember the last time I went to bed feeling peaceful, without thinking or worrying. For two years, I used to have nightmares that kept me awake at night, leaving me frightened, exhausted, and completely drained. I go to university feeling like a walking corpse.

I am tired of my life. I am tired of my daily routine. Believe me, I have tried everything: working online, working in stores, working in restaurants, but nothing worked out. For a very long time, I kept trying and trying, but nothing ever changed.

My friends left me, and I can no longer tolerate being alone with myself. I am a man who wishes he could distance himself from humanity and live alone, but I cannot.

Please, I am asking you to help me. I have thought about suicide more than once, but every time I think about my mother, I stop myself.

I am extremely exhausted. I desperately hope you can help me.

Thank you.

Thanks for your time and considerations. My problem is not having enough knowledge on my life lol

So I just graduated senior year back in may and there was this one class this year where I barely knew anyone. We had to do partner activities and there was just me and this one dude left who didn’t talk to many people in the class so we partnered with each other. At first it seemed fine… he was still very quiet but like it was okay. But then gradually it was like he was just REALLY trying to do anything to be partners with anyone but me, mind you the other people had partners

One day finally he just flat out refused to partner with me on a required class activity it was ridiculous, like not even any professionalism

Haven’t talked to him since but today morning I guess my thoughts unfortunately won me and I wrote him a simple apology message on insta saying sorry if we ever had any bad blood just to see if i’d get some sort of answer

Stupid idea, he blocked me. I honestly guess I need to respect people’s spaces. I just let my overthinking win over me because I never understood why he had such a grudge against me when i’ve just treated him as regularly as any other person.

I don’t think he thought I was hitting on him I hope not, he’s a gay guy and i’m a straight girl who doesn’t even want a partner rn

It’s fine I wouldn’t bother again if he unblocked me but I just want to know why some people do this?

I've cheated on my bf. And im guilty and ashamed of everything that I've done. I want to speak to someone who has gone through this. I want to become a better person. I want to understand what is it that I can do to fix everything.

Preferably guys. Please dm

So i met this girl and i kinda started to like her and i was genuinely happy after 3 months as my situationship ended i confessed to her nd unfortunately she also liked me back but 2 days after that her feelings changed and she said that she wants to be friends i told her idts i can be friends with u but we used to talk and all still. Then we kissed after some days cz we both were drunk then my feelings got stronger and i confessed again and unfortunately she said that her feelings were not gone she just thought being frnds was the right thing to do at that time and again after 2 days her feelings changed i told her i can't be frnds we still talk but she doesn't even realise that the things she did actually hurt me it would hurt anyone what should i fucking do now

Emotions are stuck on a loop of sad numb or anxiety
My head hurts all of the time different types of headaches left and right
Do have a low vitamin d i take supplements for
Used to take amitriptyline but it makes me not care idk if its placebo but it makes me not care about anything at all and studying is hard whether i take it or not dont have access to a doctor or therapist if i go to a pharmacy it has to be by convincing i need my good healthy brain back cannot get checked sometimes it hurts like as if my brain is stretching im exhausted mentally i dont have many to talk to and i domt care talking about it doesnt help if i try to get help from around they just say oh its anxiety mind you this has been going on for months i am sick of it is there any way of helping my brain my mental and physical health aside from suicide i dont plan on it at all but its the only solution i could think of not going to do it i promise.

First things first, I have not gone outside today, it’s Sunday and I had 3 birthdays yesterday. So it couldn’t have been a sunburn.

In the afternoon, my pointer finger and middle finger on my left hand started feeling like they were tingeling with pain. It was bearable, but heat made it worse and only cool things like the breeze of a fan or under room-temperature water could help it.

It steadily got worse.

Fast forward to now, the same day but almost midnight, all ten of my fingers feel like they are burning from the inside out.

I put aftersun on my hands, but that only worked for like five minutes maximum. They feel like they are actively burning as I’m typing this. But when I touch other parts of my body like my chest, they aren’t warmer.

Does anyone have any idea what’s happening?

Also, I have no idea if this is the correct sub for this.

Update: It’s now the next morning, and the strange burning feeling has disappeared. I still don’t know what caused it, but it’s gone for now. I’ll update again if it comes back. (I’ll go to the doctor if it comes back, as there’s nothing anymore right now.)

TLDR: my hands are burning from the inside out and I don’t know how to make it stop.

Let me know

Hey guys, I’m honestly so lost right now and things have been really rough. This is my 5th week being unemployed. I have this mindset that maybe some of you can relate to whenever I have zero income, I literally can’t bring myself to look my parents in the eye because I feel like such a failure. I can't even grab rice from the cooker without feeling like I’m failing them as a son.And at the same time, I’ve been with my girlfriend for about 6-7 months now. With my current situation, I’m just completely stuck. She deserves a better man and deserves to be happy, but at the same time, I feel like I'll never find another girl who understands me the way she does. What should I do? What can I do, man? I’m 21 and I have nothing to offer right now.

If any of you have ever been through something similar, please give me some advice."