r/problems

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every time i try to post here or somewhere else it's as if i was shadowbanned, i have no idea why.

Both me and my sister (18M/21F) work at a very important company in our region, and long story short, both of us are extremely depressed for many many reasons (she is starting treatment for it, nobody knows how i feel though).

One of the things that made her feel worse every day was the fact that she barely had any work to do, even though she was in an important department in our company, they barely gave her any work at all, and the things they did give her were extremely simple menial tasks, she wasnt learning or growing in literally any way, that was going on for months and she told me a couple times just how much she hated that, i cant look insider her head, but something tells me she felt very useless.

While im in a similar spot, i'm slowly climbing the ladder around here so to speak (though it's really slow).

Two days ago i wasnt feeling super terrible, so i used the few bits of energy and courage i had to bring up her situation to my boss, my boss said she would do something about it since it wasnt fair for my sis, and i forgot about that for the time being, though it is important to mention that i never told my sister about this, as i didn't want her to feel like she was useless and the only way she could get work is through me.

Fast forward to yesterday, there was some important restructuring in the company, and my sis approached me to talk. Basically, she was assigned to a "less technical" department, but in an administrative position, and my sister told me she felt dissapointed about it and that she hoped for something better, although she mentioned that this was better than nothing.

Now i have absolutely no idea how to feel, there is so much shit in my head already i feel it's about to burst into flames, and i don't know if this was a good decision.

If anyone can even see this post, please i want some reassurance or at least someone neutral telling me if this was good.

20M Omani I can’t get a driving license due to a health condition

I’m here to ask if anyone knows someone who tried to overdose and succeeded, because I’m planning to overdose on Xanax with alcohol tonight and end this

imagine living in the suburbs where you have to drive everywhere to get to anywhere, annoying right? But now you can't drive. There's very limited coverage of public transportation (buses, taxis, ride hailing apps). There is no infrastructure. There are no sidewalks.

Now imagine that quiet suburban life but turn it up to 11. The average population density of a US suburb is around 1,500/mi2. In Oman it's around 50/mi2. Fifty. The entire country is like a rural Wyoming farmland, but replace farmland with sorching desert. It's perpetually 100F+ summer, so obviously you can't walk, you can't bike, you can't motorcycle.

When a 20 year old American says their life is over if they can't get a driver's license, maybe they're being overdramatic I don't know. But if you're in Oman, that's a true statement. You're pretty much homebound. You'll have to rely on family, friends, or neighbor carpooling. You're basically crippled and in a wheelchair and you'll need someone to push you around your entire life - school, university, job, social life, etc. You're done.

So yeah, obsession is the right word, and it's "normal" for people in Oman to be absolutely devistated if they can't get a driver's license.

It's over for me tonight with xanax

I think because of my looks or personality. I’m always guys last option. I’m never chosen for marriage. It hurts my heart that I may never experience marriage in my lifetime.

I defiantly feel like it’s concerning because all I’m doing is staying at home all day doing nothing with life. I don’t know how to explain but I don’t study or learn any skills since I don’t know what to do. I also have no job and feel emrbassed to ask someone for jobs and I don’t apply for jobs since I have no prior work experience and barely anything to put on my resume since I also have no college degree and skills. It’s like I have no clue how to get out of this rut and also build my self esteem.

First off thankyou for allowing me to vent, I’m seeking to get a little help finishing the last part of repairs on my vehicle. I’m short on what I need to replace a worn tire and the tie rod on the same side. My mom is currently in the hospital, and not having a working vehicle has made it hard for me to get to her since she’s a bit of a distance away. I’m also waiting for training to start for a remote job I was hired for, so things are tight financially until that begins.

Today my chef came to me and told me a coworker told her I didnt checked out when I went to the break, but I didn’t I was coming to the workplace in the morning and I drink my coffee in the morning but I don’t checked in either he just told her I went to break without checking in he was also in the break room so he couldn’t have seen me where I was coming from. He just made an assumption and just told her a lie and I told my chef this isn’t true but now I will talk to This guy why he is lying. How can i tell him why he did this?

Can I get a safe word?Because everybody else got a safe board.Where is my safe word?

Maybe I'm being too dramatic, but I'm getting worse and I don't want to "heal." I'm only 17 and I can't take it anymore. No one really understands me, and everyone makes things seem too slow and overestimated. But in reality, I'm nothing, I don't have the ability, and I'll fail at anything I try. Maybe I just don't want to, and have ability? Maybe I've always been stupid and lazy, like my parents said? The fact is, it's destroying me, and little by little, I'll tear my body apart until it no longer feels like my own. I don't know who to talk to, and if I try to escape, my legs will be cut off by ignorant obstacles. Do I have any hope? Or has that too been thrown into the oblivion of dreams? P.S. I have a test tomorrow on three science chapters, and I'm about to commit s. If I don't go to school tomorrow, everyone will kick my ass. It was beautiful (it's not true).

I see a lot of people here posting stuff about asking advice or making polls and surveys about their relationships. I'm just thinking, how would you feel if you find out that your relationship struggles are posted here online? I know it's anonymous and no one's actually gonna know who the op is, but I also know a lot of people here are doing it as a way to let out the negativity when it's too much.

I, 19F, have been with my boyfriend, 21M for over a year and a half. We have been doing long distance since August because I moved away for college. My boyfriend is the sweetest person ever and he loves me more than anything, he has been there for me at my lowest and supports me in everything. My parents have always found something wrong with him since the beginning, first they didn’t like that he did not want to go to college (not something that bothered me bc college is a big financial decision and he still wants to do something with his life, he is one of the most hardworking people I know) though now he is considering going to college. Parents did not want him to become a distraction going into college (which they blatantly told him) and he truly was not. He always tells me the number one priority for me should be my studies and when we talk on the phone or facetime he always makes sure I have finished homework and studying. I returned from college two weeks ago and my birthday was last week, they are now upset that he did not come to visit me or bring me a gift, when in reality he asked me if he could come over to celebrate with us, but they are so strict to the point I feel uncomfortable when he’s here because of them so I told him no. He is not allowed in my room and we are only allowed to sit in the living room with supervision, i’m not allowed to go to his house without my brother accompanying me and we can only go out for 2-3 hours max. They always make it awkward and uncomfortable for me, and I always feel bad for him in these situations. He is so willing to comply with all their rules because he truly loves me and wants my parents to accept our relationship and support us, but recently they told me that I have to break up with him, or they’ll do it for me. They threatened that if I don’t break up with him I cannot continue with my studies, and that he will never fit into our family (they believe him and his family are lower class and uneducated because of their culture and background). They break my heart telling me all of this saying they know what’s best for me and that i’ll thank them one day, but I do not want to breakup with him, I don’t know what to do. I’m still dependent on them financially. I love my parents but I love my boyfriend and they don’t understand. Advice please?

Second time being on reddit, I thought I might try it out again. I didn't think people would actually respond since I had an old account that can't seem to get any response, so I made this post. Thank you for your time! I will not be posting again unless it's an actual problem.

I’m depressed.I’m going through a rough time,I’m about to lose my apartment,I’m not living my life like everyone else.I don’t work,I want to work.

What can I do?

My mom would always start an argument and then refuse to let me end it. She would scream at me first until the point where I cant control it anymore and scream back, and as soon as I scream back she would take away my phone for a week for example. She never heard me out when I gave reasoning and just end up giving me a punishment instead. Please give me some tips to control my anger sometimes or anything that helps

I feel like a lot of us in our late 20s or just 20s in general rush into signing stuff without fully understanding what we’re agreeing to. Apartments, car payments, loans, subscriptions, jobs, insurance, medical papers, etc.

What’s something you learned the hard way that made you start taking contracts and paperwork more seriously? I seen so many people posts on social media about getting their first car or apartment since they are so excited about getting the stuff but don’t even care to read the policy and the consequences it comes when you don’t pay the payment or something based on the contract policy. Like I barely hear anyone mention this in adulthood.

Hey kevin what's up? I\nFigured since I have been put on some kind of watch list even though I haven't done anything to anybody I figured I'd make friends with you since i'm not allowed to make friends with anybody else and how long does this watch list last? I am gonna survive it or i'm gonna end up committing suicide? Do you think that that's fair for somebody to do that , to me , when they were the ones that were guilty of something and me end up committing suicide because of it? It's really not and it's f***** u*.

My bf (25) and me(24) have been living with each other for a year going on 2 now the first year was good for the first half he can’t get anything in his name bc of an eviction so I got the apartment in my name. But by November his sister got evicted with 3 kids and he sprung it on me that they have to stay w us for a few days which turned into 3 months , they finally left February , it was chaos she barely cleaned left her 3 kids here all the time unattended, while I was working from home , I also have a toddler and I was a few weeks pregnant. Fast forward we gave them a deadline they left . Then April he told me she was sleeping in the car with her 3 kids for a day and didnt want to ask to stay here because I made her feel uncomfortable last time ( idk how by setting boundaries I guess ) he said they need a place to stay again and “you wouldn’t want them sleeping in the car right?” now they are back ,im in my 3rd trimester now it’s been a month and I just can’t keep doing this I’m going to tell him that I need a deadline by June 14 again, or is this too harsh? She just got a job but she still hasn’t started it’s been a month , they are waiting on background to clear I guess and he’s saying he’s going to let her stay and save a few paychecks to get an apartment which just seems to open ended for me I don’t want no one here when I have this baby and I at least want to prepare , he’s been paying her bills she doesn’t pay any rent , our bills are going up and 3 kids in my living room on the floor and her, I just feel uncomfortable in my own home everytime I have a attitude he ask me to go upstairs or lay down in our room because I’m messing up the energy but I’m PREGNANT ASF 😒and it’s reoccurring but he seems to just think I don’t like her I’m not sure what to do anymore . 😭 any thoughts , what would you guys do?

EDIT: his mom died from stress due to taking care of her 3 kids while she ran the streets and their dad is not in ther life either , he also passed away so parents haven’t been an option .

Hi everyone. About 10 months ago (late 2024), during a lonely phase in school, I joined an online group chat through an author's account. I ended up talking to a few guys from different states. I only found out later on that they were older than me and came from poor, shady backgrounds. Because I wanted to help them improve their lives, I took on a sisterly/mentor role—giving them advice on studies, finances, and pushing them to leave bad habits behind. I also got stuck in the middle of their messy relationship dramas.

​Because I trusted them like family at the time, I overshared. I sent personal daily vlogs, photos, general hints about my school/city, and openly discussed normal health topics like my periods.

​Eventually, I realized they were untrustworthy, caught up in bad environments, and just using me for their own egos. I cut all ties and stopped talking to them 10 months ago.

​Recently, due to severe anxiety, I panicked that they might still have screenshots of those old chats/vlogs and could somehow use them to trace me or harm my family.

To protect myself, I recently requested the permanent deletion of my account, and it is now officially disabled on the servers. There has been zero contact or conflict for nearly a year.

​Am I in any actual danger of being tracked down or targeted from things shared 10 months ago, or is this just my anxiety taking over? Any rational perspective would help. Thanks.

Hi guys!! Goodnight!

I feel disrespected by someone I know for a long time now. And it's something that really kills my spirit constantly. I'm chilling at my bed right now, and started thinking of a situation where I felt I was disrespected in front of someone else, belittled and treated like a child. I am sure if I dig more, I will notice many other situations like this one. Have you ever went through a relationship where you felt that way? And what were the signs that showed it?