My (28F) boyfriend (35M) doesn’t think he can forgive me for going through his phone. Have you ever gone through your partners phone?
For some background information:
My boyfriend and I have been together for four years and have been living together for three. He has been going through some seasons of depression and other personal problems for most of this time. They have been a couple of times where I would catch him or suspect him of being on dating apps or messaging several girls on social media to hook up. He claims he hasn’t trusted me since I moved my things out because I moved them out while he was at work one day, but I think it’s because of something deeper.
Recently, he left his phone open as he was sleeping and I found out that he had hooked up with one of his exes, and he was actively talking to other girls on more than just dating apps. He was making fake promises and trying to pretend to build a life with them. Instead of putting the phone back, I confronted him and he became very upset about what I found out. Since then, he has changed his manners towards me and claims that ever since I looked through his phone, he doesn’t trust me because he thinks I’ll never trust him again. I have apologized to him since then for crossing those boundaries, but don’t regret doing it because I found the truth. He claims that he cannot let it go or move past it but won’t leave me or the relationship. Does this permanently ruin a relationship?