Shall I make a move?
This will be a long post. I appreciate you reading and giving your advice.
I (26m) have been thinking (for the better of the last year) about proposing to this girl (25f), and been focusing on this topic and including this matter in my dua every single prayer for the better of the past 2 months. I need someone else's prospective and thoughts.
I know the girl from childhood since our mothers were really close friends, and our families used to visit each other. My mother and sisters still contact them from time to time even though they haven't met in 15 years since they moved to the west.
What I know about her (hearing from my mom and sisters) is that she's still living with her family, finished her bachelors degree in the same specialization that I'm in, and she is still single. her family (from far) seem very well mannered, religious, and are living very good financially.
Me on the other hand, had to move away from my family for University and after finishing my bachelors I started working in my specialty and doing my PhD at the same time. will finish it in 2 years inshallah. I'm doing barely ok financially with very minimal aid from my family in cases of need but once i finish my PhD I'll be in much better situation financially.
I want to make it clear that we don't speak, we haven't contacted at all since childhood and I plan that if I will make a move, to be appropriate and involve our families.
We will absolutely need to know about each other more and discuss the details if things get series, but I also feel that from what we know about each other that we could be compatible, religiously, character wise, career wise, life goals..since we are had very similar upbringing and careers.
I also feel that Allah is keeping her in my mind and making me include her in my Dua for a reason, to the extent that I get a bit anxious thinking if this chance "slip from between my hands" and she gets married that I might regret doing nothing (not a fear since I trust that Allah will lead me to what's best for me, but this idea crosses my mind from time to time).
I know that I'm not 100% stable financially and many things in me can be improved, but I think of marriage as a journey and us as companions to each other through this life. I feel ready in some aspects, just barely fine in some other aspects. I feel getting married could help me get better in many aspects of life.
I keep thinking that if I initiate now, will she be willing to join me immediately on this journey? Will she accept the downgrade from living very comfortably with her father and family to living with me with minimum wage and ok status? will she be willing to wait me for 2 years till my salary gets better and I become more stable in different aspects? I'm I appropriate for marriage in her pov in the first place?!
Am I immature? Should I make a move? Is it too early? Is this all in my head?
I wasn't able to explain every single detail but this is a general idea of my thoughts and the situation I'm in.
Advices are appreciated.