u/Flashy_Pineapple3244

Hi I’m not really sure what I’m expecting from this but I wasn’t sure where else to ask. My brother has just finished sixth form and he didn’t do aswell as he hoped. I don’t know his exact grades but I believe they were around CDD. Most of his close friends have gone to uni and he has never been the most social person, so I feel like he’s quite lonely, and he has a habit of punishing himself and putting himself in boxes, thinking he’s shit at everything. He’s been doing sports like one or twice a week and he goes to the gym and he occasionally sees friends but It just seems he’s very unhappy. I think he’s scared of the idea of getting older and thinks he’s wasted his life so far and is wasting his youth, which probably comes in part due to his fear of death which I can’t help him with at all as I am currently in a similar position. I just want to be able to tell him that he has a future and hasn’t wasted his life and I want him to find people but I feel so helpless. My parents are both around, together and supportive but I think they are equally worried and stuck with how to help. He doesn’t like talking about it so I’ve just been trying to be around and suggest plans but I don’t think I’m helping much. His twentieth birthday is this year and I want him to be happy about it but at this rate I think it will just make him extremely upset. Sorry if this has been a lot of waffle but I hope someone can help.