u/Flashy_Royal_719

Is it the same as the UK/Us or worse? Better?

Update**
We had a chat about it after a very colourful meal we had with his family and it was evident that I wasn’t really accepted and neither was he - strangely. It left a bad taste and we decided that it was better to save up and buy something for ourselves rather than feel obligated to wear a ring that wasn’t meant for us. Thank you for the wonderful thoughts and love. 💕

My (30F) partner (34M) proposed to me a month and a half ago, and I love him so much. But I did not love the ring, it’s a three set diamond ring with a gold band. It isn’t my design or my type of ring tbh. When I wear it, it doesn’t feel like me or our relationship.
It was originally his great grandmum’s ring and while I really appreciate the gesture, his mum doesn’t love me / accept me entirely cause I’m not from his culture either.

I don’t love what the ring represents, and I did talk to him about it and expressed my concerns, I don’t know if he took it well. He’s quite offended and thinks I’m materialistic and this symbolises that I don’t accept his family because his mum willingly gave this ring but also said a lot of weird things to me when we met them after we got engaged. I think what makes me sadder is that I have mentioned it to him a few times in the past about the kind of rings I want and what I want it to represent. AITA for telling him I don’t like it and what do I do from here?