u/Flat-Okra2156

Ever since the day I met my mother in law I could tell she wasn’t going to be welcoming me into her family. She and my father in law did not attend our wedding in 2023 … but they did come to the engagement party 🤔 which is literally stupid asf. I’ve literally never done anything to these people for them to dislike me. I straight up asked my father in law why he dosent like me and he said it’s because of my face 😳. I was like wtf. For context I am a very animated person who’s face says it all. Also for context I was 10wks pregnant when he said this to me also pointed in my face calling me a child. I’m 26 btw. Anyways my pregnancy was hard and unfortunately I went into pre term labor at 21 weeks and had to watch my baby girl die. I was literally heart broken and still am but I am thankful to be pregnant again currently. In my heart I want peace but I’m starting to think that looks more like going completely no contact with these individuals. Neither of them reached out to me after the miscarriage to say anything. Here’s another crazy fact, his mother who at one point would pretend like I wasn’t even in a room went to our local hospital when my husband texted his family group chat 🙄. But I had given birth about an hour away from home at a larger hospital. Like why tf would she even think to do something lilt that after her asked for privacy at that time . There is so much to the story but I’m just looking for advice on how I should move forward or how I can reframe my thinking towards them so at least it’s not negative for me . Also keep in mind I’m not a people pleaser I just hold back from unleashing on them out of respect for my husband because I knooooow I would take it too far. 😂 I’m trying to be mature with this one so help a girl out