Advice needed
Hello, I (31F) am recently married to my partner (32M) but have dated for 3 years now. He has primary custody of SS (6). Things have been great. We have a lot of boundaries with BM as flexibility in the past has caused more conflict than helped it. Anyways, now that we’re married she is really ramping up the conflict. She has been making it a huge issue that I’m picking up SS from school during my husbands possession time, I only do it when my husband is at work, he’s a first responder and his shift schedule is variable. Anyways she keeps mentioning how she is “willing and available” but the court order restricts her severely more than a typical SPO and we are following as closely to the order as we can because again, conflict increases with flexibility. Anyways she has now made accusations that I have given the child alcohol and that he explicitly named me. Of course these are false, I’m a nurse, I don’t even drink, I’m a full time graduate student, anyways I digress the point is I don’t drink or if I do it’s for special occasions and extremely rare and never around children. Has anyone else experienced this? My husband had allegations in the past that were much worse and now the ex wife is essentially barred from CPS reporting etc. I guess I just need to know what I need to do if anything? They already only communicate over an app- I never have contact with her. I’m just trying to support my husband and my household and it’s making me want to, maybe not push the child away but create distance?
I am very much a rule follower and I just am taken aback and I guess I always knew she’d eventually try any angle and come for me too. I’m feeling very discouraged.