u/Flat_Instruction_772

Hi all,

I became active here while going through a brutal breakup a month ago from my long-distance ex(?)wuBPD, he’s a raging cluster B. I was insanely anxiously attached and of course as soon as he showed back up in my life after 2 weeks we saw each other and decided to work things out.

Things actually WERE going well for a while until this past weekend. I went out with friends (me doing anything with anyone is a trigger for him), which caused him to split. He wouldn’t stop asking where my “date” was no matter how many photos I sent of me with my girlfriends, that sort of vibe. Then I fell asleep on my friends couch for a couple of hours and texted him as I woke up and headed home. He kept accusing me of cheating, then asked if I had “seen” any private parts after we broke up, I said no but eventually admitted that I did briefly get on a dating app and didn’t even talk to anyone but was sent an unconsensual nude photo. All of this was an abomination in his book, and the beginning of our new end and this discard. He said we weren’t even dating, we “just f*cked” and everything was in my head. I didn’t react the greatest either, my pain from all of his cheating was still raw and I suggested he was cheating again since he was accusing me so much.

The next day he was all about working it out and “moving on from what we both did”, but distance was growing, but that I had to stop nagging him. Done. He went out the next day but gave no information about who he was with or where he went, etc. similarly, the next night, he went out and disappeared on me. I begged him to just confirm he got home, woke up to saying he did but nothing else, no morning messages. I politely asked if he wanted to call and chat today, no response except hours later him saying he was busy, and I kind of lost it realizing this was another discard. We argued, he threw out some insults and blocked me on EVERYTHING this time, I tried calling maybe 100 times since, but nothing. And oh my god, this one is so much more brutal than the last one. Maybe because I gave it another shot even knowing he would fall back into old patterns again. Maybe I just didn’t except a discard after just 2 more weeks, I thought it’d at least be a few good months until we went back to toxicity. But physically this one hurts so much worse, my head feels like it’s being compressed all day, can’t stomach food, just shaking.

Whatever you do PLEASE don’t give them another chance. The second time is so much worse than the first

Hi everyone! I’m planning to move to Reno for a job in the near future, and I’ve made a couple big moves before but always on the east side of the country. I have never been to your area and visiting before moving isn’t logistically easy (currently in Florida lol) so I would LOVE any Reno-specific information on the housing search and what to expect from the city, particularly unconventional knowledge I couldn’t find online. What’s the general vibe in the ciry? What are the different neighborhoods like, are any particularly dangerous? How are transplants treated? For context, I’m a woman in my late 20s working with wildlife.

Also, would appreciate any affordable housing recommendations (the offer I got is probably 2/3 of the lowest comfortable wage, but I’m expecting to work part time on weekends.. it’s typical for my field). I’m looking at anything pet friendly around Reno and Sparks that’ll go for $1400 or under, a lot of these buildings seem to have pest problems, but would love to hear from someone who had a positive experience living in a budget friendly apartment <3

Thank you!! Looking forward to exploring the beautiful place Reno seems to be :)

ETA: guys it’s not a USA Parkway job, i didn’t even know what that was before making this post 😭 I’m a research/field biologist, we move to random places a lot.