u/Flimsy-Me

Hello everyone 21F, I met someone on the Christian dating sub. I liked his bio and was really interested in him so I messaged him after some reluctance, which I am happy to have overcome. We've been talking for a week now, and our conversations span a lot of topics. We talk about serious topics and ask each other deep questions about marriage and life in general. We're also quite playful and flirtatious, so our conversations are just always fun. Both of us have expressed liking each other and seeking to pursue marriage. Therefore, we're both truly invested and show genuine interest, so I have no doubt that he wants us to marry, Lord willing.

We are from different parts of the World, 8 hour difference but our time zones are favourable so we talk throughout the day (mostly at night).

The thing is though, he seems to have developed intense romantic feelings which he expresses deeply, even the desire for intimacy. I genuinely feel like this was too quick and somehow fear that it may cloud our discernment and conviction. I do have the same feelings for him truly, just not as intense as he does. I would like to be intimate with him some day and love him without limit.

So my concern is, how do we acknowledge that we like and desire to be with each other, without making ourselves prone to temptation?

He also mentioned that he doesn't want us to put labels on us, after I asked him what we are, what we'd call our connection (are we in a relationship or talking stage or what exactly). He's not asked me to be his girlfriend yet but treats me like one, using the terms "baby". I'd prefer if he had first asked me to be his girlfriend, seems to him that I can read between the lines and since we confessed to liking each other I should be okay with being a girlfriend without him asking. This is a little strange or rather different to me because I want to be sure about where we are and for him to make that clear. Last time I checked we were in a talking stage but "baby" is more than that.

Is it just lover boy energy? The country I'm from, men are just nonchalant so getting such energy from a man is quite overwhelming, so I don't know how to receive it, although, don't get me wrong I love it.

Hi everyone, I've got 2 new friends that I got really close to mid 2025 during our practicals. Both of them are christian but aren't really saved and I realized that since we became close, I've moved away (or rather am slowly but surely moving away from God). Our conversations, conduct, jokes, music etc aren't godly and often make it hard to get close to God when I'm alone. I truly love them, they are great company and great help with my studies (we help each other) but our friendship isn't helpful to my spiritual life. I know that scripture says bad company corrupts good morals and have seen it with my other Christian friend who's close to unsaved friends, however being on campus hasn't been the same with them. I can be alone on campus and do enjoy alone time and my own company, but having friends to especially spend my last days of university with has been great. So I don't know what to do, I can't just cut them off because we have almost all the same classes (it would make things awkward) and I just truly enjoy their company. I do have godly friends, we just do different courses and attend on different campuses (15 min distance) and see each other once or twice a week. Any advice would be appreciated.

Ladies, I'm unmarried, early 20s and find that temptation and my sexual urges are higher during ovulation, I've heard that this is experienced by a lot of ladies, so how do you deal with it and not allow yourself to fall into lust?