How to get over the stereotype of “1 guy and 2 girls😏”
I(m) have been dating my girlfriend for about a year, we’re now involving another person (F), and though nothings official yet! I’ve been really struggling with feeling of shame (?) because I can’t get the stereotype of “1 guy and two girls” in that fetishy, dehumanizing woman way out of my head and I have no idea how to get over it :/
For some context, I do have OCD and I very well may be fixating on this because of it, but I was just wondering if anyone has felt the same and what they did to get over it?
I know I’m very much not like that but I still for some reason feel very grossed out with myself? I’m sorry if this isn’t something anyone can give advice on/is a dumb question 😅
Edit: Okay to give some more context? I’ve been good friends with this person for about a year, I’m the one who introduced her to my girlfriend and they ended up hitting it off really well, more than just “friendly”! At first they were just messing around but my girlfriend admitted she might be gaining feelings, that was fine with me, I had a great relationship with this friend and wouldn’t have minded one bit if she and my girlfriend were dating…and then this friend started to pursue me! We’ve all been communicating well, and have already made it clear to this woman that she does not have to pursue both of us! My girlfriend and I have been trying our best to communicate with her but also just kind of go with the flow and not put any pressure on her.
I really appreciate everyone who has given helpful tips poly wise and OCD wise, I am very much ruminating and will be bringing it up with my therapist next time I see her..😅
And I know I still have lots to learn, my girlfriend is the first person I’ve dated that’s been comfortable being non-monogamous so this is all new to me, I appreciate you all!