Am I The Asshole for not wanting to cover work all the time ?
I have been in foodservice work for 10 years now - I started in the kitchen in college and then worked as a distributor sales rep ( Sysco & US Foods) , Protein Specialists at distirbutors and then as manufacturer sales manager while working side kitchen gig for cash ( especially starting COVID - my paycheck became way too low based on my commission during that time and I had good food truck customers who had to close down the restaurants, but were free to serve customers traveling around residency and asked me to work together which I really enjoyed learning new things while having flexible schedule working volumes).
I have been always doing sushi & ramen as well as korean cuisines, after recent divorce last year, I jumped on 20 hours per week kitchen gig as side on top of my 8-4 PM main job Mon to Friday. This is a family owned restaurant now and new management took over this February, and I swear every single fucking week- line cooks calling in sick once or twice a week and I have been covering everytime. I never said no, but last two times I did say no because I feel like it is becoming habits - literally one cook has been missing work on Sunday for last 6 weeks that I helped coming in last minute (1-2 hours before the restaurant opens) working whole day - I work Friday night and Saturday all day and having to work Sunday all day on top of that for some bullshit excuse like her saying " i have period it hurts so much" really annoys me especially being last minute, but I don't want to take over sunday regulary cause I need at least one full day off balancing my both jobs. Owner/Management is frustrated with this issue too but hasn't done anything yet.
IDK, I worked last night after refusing to cover someone on Sunday - and I felt like I got so much attitudes from them because I refused. I went to funeral's friend and they don't even ask single shit about it which is OK, but overall through the whole shift, it just felt different.
I wanted to set boundaries, but I just feel like its too late cause I have always said yes to cover all the time now they think its not helping, but they just expect this of me.