u/Formal-Flower3912

HI again,

my MMC was found on Monday at my first ultrasound. I should have measured 10 weeks, but measured 7 no HB. They had me meet with someone and go over options. I opted for a D&C. They said they would schedule this week. They called and made an appointment, but it felt like it is another consultation to go over options. I really want to do the D&C to have the tissue tested. It is feeling like it wont happen until next week. I'm scared it will pass on its own over the weekend and I wont be able to get it tested. How can I push for the procedure before the end of the week? Is it normal to wait this long? I feel like I am being dismissed and I want to advocate for myself. I just don't know what to say or who to talk to. This feeling really sucks.

Hello,

I'm (37f) new here but I think I need support. I have thyroid issues and PCOS. I have 3 previous losses and we have recently decided to try again. I worked with an endo and thought I got my thyroid right and we conceived on our first try. Yesterday I went to my 10 week ultrasound and discovered that the baby measured 7 weeks with no heartbeat. I'm really disappointed. I have to schedule a D&C. Never done that before, I am scared but I hope it wont be as painful. I know it is not my fault, but I am really struggling with blaming myself. What happened 3 weeks ago? Did I eat something wrong? Did I do the wrong exercise? I feel like I prepared myself for this as much as I could. I'm just sad. I have therapy scheduled tonight, so I know I have support. I guess I am just looking for people who understand. I have no live children, what should I do next.? I'm not ready to give up yet, but I know it could never happen for us.